Lets say that perhaps you do meet that special someone. Whose to say that you two can't have good communication? I think that if you guys saw that you two weren't right for each other, mutually, I would at least think that you guys would keep it together till the kids were out of the house. I mean some relationships can get boring, especially if they've been going on for awhile, but that doesn't mean that you two can't talk about what you guys want. Perhaps this is the way I imagine a relationship should be, good communication and just a general want to make it work.
I've been fortunate enough to see what love is like. I'm not referring to my parents, I'm actually referring to my best friend's parents. Nearly 30 yrs of being together. I've talked with her mom before and asked her how she's been able to keep the marriage alive. She just said that they both want to make it work and both care about each other and the life that they've built together. She is a great mother and a great person, her husband is a chill dude as well. Sure they fight here and there, but they don't go to bed without resolving it. There kids aren't perfect though, my best friend, she is anorexic and was suicidal. Her older sister, who is 25 still acts like a spoiled brat, although her parents do spoil her so it's understandable but it's still not ok. Point is that a great marriage doesn't always produce great kids.
I think the fear that you have; trying to measure up and be a good father, maintaining a family, and generally just being there for the people you love. I think these fears are the same that everyone has at some point in their life. But I think that regardless, as long as you try to be a good father, you will succeed. As long as you communicate with the people you love, that will keep them from being strangers in your house. As long as you try, and your partner does to (this part requires communication) you should be able to maintain everything. Perhaps I'm wrong, I've never been in a romantic relationship, but I have been in some great friendships and still am. I talk to the people I'm close to, I tell them my fears and I express to them how I feel and ask that they do the same. I take an interest in them and they take an interest in me. Communication is key in any relationship, and I think as long as you have that you should do alright in life.
I didn't overlook what you wrote here, I was feeling kind of down at the time and it just took me awhile to get back to you. I am doing a little better now I think. You are wise beyond your years, and I thank you for your advice, your insight, and your positivity. Thank you.
I agree with everything you said here, and I just want you to know that I will never give up. I refuse. No matter what happens or how long it takes, I will always keep my hope. I may have my down moments every now and again, but I will pull through. I have to. :)
That's good to hear man. I know that it will all work out in the end. I'm not trying to stress love as the single most important thing in life, I'm just saying that you deserve it.
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Lets say that perhaps you do meet that special someone. Whose to say that you two can't have good communication? I think that if you guys saw that you two weren't right for each other, mutually, I would at least think that you guys would keep it together till the kids were out of the house. I mean some relationships can get boring, especially if they've been going on for awhile, but that doesn't mean that you two can't talk about what you guys want. Perhaps this is the way I imagine a relationship should be, good communication and just a general want to make it work.
I've been fortunate enough to see what love is like. I'm not referring to my parents, I'm actually referring to my best friend's parents. Nearly 30 yrs of being together. I've talked with her mom before and asked her how she's been able to keep the marriage alive. She just said that they both want to make it work and both care about each other and the life that they've built together. She is a great mother and a great person, her husband is a chill dude as well. Sure they fight here and there, but they don't go to bed without resolving it. There kids aren't perfect though, my best friend, she is anorexic and was suicidal. Her older sister, who is 25 still acts like a spoiled brat, although her parents do spoil her so it's understandable but it's still not ok. Point is that a great marriage doesn't always produce great kids.
I think the fear that you have; trying to measure up and be a good father, maintaining a family, and generally just being there for the people you love. I think these fears are the same that everyone has at some point in their life. But I think that regardless, as long as you try to be a good father, you will succeed. As long as you communicate with the people you love, that will keep them from being strangers in your house. As long as you try, and your partner does to (this part requires communication) you should be able to maintain everything. Perhaps I'm wrong, I've never been in a romantic relationship, but I have been in some great friendships and still am. I talk to the people I'm close to, I tell them my fears and I express to them how I feel and ask that they do the same. I take an interest in them and they take an interest in me. Communication is key in any relationship, and I think as long as you have that you should do alright in life.
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I didn't overlook what you wrote here, I was feeling kind of down at the time and it just took me awhile to get back to you. I am doing a little better now I think. You are wise beyond your years, and I thank you for your advice, your insight, and your positivity. Thank you.
I agree with everything you said here, and I just want you to know that I will never give up. I refuse. No matter what happens or how long it takes, I will always keep my hope. I may have my down moments every now and again, but I will pull through. I have to. :)
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That's good to hear man. I know that it will all work out in the end. I'm not trying to stress love as the single most important thing in life, I'm just saying that you deserve it.