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hi, i always wanted to have a girlfriend that would like girls, now that i found one that does, she doesn't want to have a threesome because she says that it will ruin the relationship. do you think that is true?
Ask her why she thinks it will ruin the relationship. Just because she likes girls does not necessarily mean that she wants a threesome. Waaaaay different experience.
All parties must want to participate and should have something positive that they can take away from the experience. That might be why she thinks it is not a good idea. Nothing good in it for her.
My husband and I participated in a three-some with another female about four years ago and it has never caused a problem in our relationship. It was more like having an extra prop.
It's not for everyone, but if you have a strong enough connection with your spouse, it shouldn't be an issue.
Thats absolute crap about having a 'strong enough connection'. You either have the personality for it or you don't, you either believe in marriage or you don't.
I would never whore myself out for a guy, and if I was married and my husband even asked, I would leave him, because he obviously didn't love me, to be honest I doubt I would marry anyone like that.
It's too bad you got so easily offended by my personal experience that I so candidly shared, instead of embracing that some people can live differently than you and still be happy.
I never said I "whore myself out for a guy" and my husband never did ask me: I suggested it to him because I like the idea of it. It worked for us, that doesn't mean it works for all because not all couples have that sort of deep trust. It takes a certain type of open-minded couple to make it a success. If you don't have that in your marriage, that's okay too.
It's not harming anyone, so get off your high horse and stop judging things you obviously don't understand.
Thats your opinion, and I have mine. Marriage is a sanctity of vows and is intended that the union should result in being faithful to each other and not coveting others.
If people want to do it when single so be it, and if you want to continue in this fashion then don't get married or have a serious relationship.
I like my 'high horse' it shows I have morals.
Nothing wrong with being intolerant of something you see as being totally immoral, I would be just as intolerant of someone stealing from or hurting another person. As I said I have no problem with singles doing as they will sexually. But there is no way someone can justify breaking the sanctity of marriage just for sexual gratification.
Being rude to me just demonstrates your own defensiveness for your actions. I will not bother replying again as this is moving away from the OP.
A very good female friend of mine has done her fair share of sleeping with married women (with hubbies' consent - often hubby wants to watch). No matter how much he says he's okay with it, she's seen more stress and issues than you'd believe. She's in a perfect position to judge.
Your partner is a wise woman. Not only that - she cares enough about your relationship to not risk it. Forget the threesome stuff and marry that girl! Seriously.
If you and your partner are not mature enough or solid enough in your relationship then there is a very good chance that a threesome will mess it up.
You can't really get around someone's personal morals though without hurting them. Even if the relationship is awesome and the two of you are excellent communicators both partners also have to be 100% into the idea of a threesome or problems could easily arise.