Do you think people should ever close their hearts towards love?

I am a guy, thinking of not dating anymore and thinking of closing my heart entirely and not letting anyone in when it comes to dating.

Yes, some people should. For some people it is just not worth it. 17
No, a person should never close their heart entirely. 14
I am not sure. 8
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  • Mobiuss

    love is a useless waste of time that will bring more work and trouble than its worth. most of the time, it doesn't even work out.

    what you're planning on doing isn't a bad idea.

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    • BahmBitosWhap

      love is a beautiful thing

      you just gotta find the right people

      take the challenge. life is full of risk. but it wont kill you

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    • BahmBitosWhap

      wrong

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    • Exactly how I feel.. I'm not with it..

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  • RoseIsabella

    You don't have to give up entirely and close your heart off to love. I think though if you feel so inclined you might want to take a break from actively pursuing romantic relationships. It's okay to just chill out and take care of yourself, work on your issues, learn to spot a person who is bad for you and just love yourself and try to let your heart heal. Don't define yourself or let anyone else define you by your relationship status. You are enough.

    Sure, lots of people refer to their partners as their other half, but please always remember you are not half a person, you are a complete and whole person regardless of whether or not you're alone or you have a significant other.

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    • I am actually super good at spotting bad women. I am currently giving a woman the slient treatment for how she treated me. Well the talking to her a lot less treatment anyway. I might do the same to this other woman.

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      • TheMightyOz

        All women give me the silent treatment.

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        • There are a lot of women that are extreemly rude to men and not care how they make a guy feel when they are not interested. You would not believe the treatment we get from a lot of women and then we hear these women ask why men don't apporch women very easliy. However, not all women are this way and there are women that actually do remember their manners.

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          • TheMightyOz

            Women only approach attractive guys. Anyway, it doesn't matter because I can't get it up.

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            • BahmBitosWhap

              theres more to a relationship than sex anyway

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          • RoseIsabella

            There are males who exhibit the same behavior as you describe. I do think that regardless of whether a person is male or female he or she needs to try to not take rejection personally. If someone, regardless of sex or gender, is not interested then he or she should never be made to feel guilty for saying no, and no one should ever feel guilty for turning down someone they're not interested in for whatever reason.

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            • There are some males that do the same. However, it is by far the most common in women when it comes to the first approach which is what I am talking about.

              I agree with not taking a rejection too personlly and people should not feel guilty about rejecting a person but only if they do it in a nice way. If a person rejects a person in the most mean and nasty way they possiably can then you do and should feel guilty about it.

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  • dirtybirdy

    I never did the whole dating scene, and I don't want to now either.

    But I have found that relationships are too much work. I have my own problems, I don't need someone else's too. Besides that, I need my freedom and solitude.
    These days, I have a friend with benefits and it is the ideal situation for me at this time.

    I'm a woman, if that matters.

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    • CreamPies

      Yes. You were right.

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      • dirtybirdy

        Bwahahaha!!! Eeeeeeennnnnnn!

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  • INSANE710

    Don't close your heart forever just make yourself wait for the right person who truly deserve a you

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  • yasss

    I know what you're going though, I'm pretty sick of people telling me love is worth the pain. Love seams seriously crap to me. All I do
    is get my heart stepped on by dudes, such fun.
    But I guess you should always leave your heart open a little. Just in case.
    But who knows, I'm just a clueless soul with an internet connection.
    Good luck anyway.

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  • There's more to life than just women. Pursue some hobby like painting, writing etc etc

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  • Tealights

    As lame as this sounds, the right one will come along when you least expect it.

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    • 😍😘😘 I just needed to hear that ..

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      • Tealights

        How on earth are you doing that? You're the 3rd person I've seen using emojis on here, and I can't figure it out how! Tell me your secrets.

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        • So here's the thing . You gotta develop it on your phone. And it's already programmed in the phone..

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          • Tealights

            Okay.

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        • dirtybirdy

          😁oh I just gave it whirl and there it is. I'm on my phone and the button I normally push to get to symbols has an emoji icon thingy. I hit the button then next to where that is, a smiley button comes up. I hit that and there they were! I never noticed that.

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          • Tealights

            Thank you! :)

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          • dirtybirdy

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  • BahmBitosWhap

    Love is definately worth it. Dont give up on love! Its beautiful and special when you finally find the right person :)

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    • It is just with all the constant man hating everywhere in society and blaming men for every single thing in the world and meeting some women that have this bitter attitude towards men I feel women hate men. I don't mean to be offensive in anyway but I am struggling to believe women actually like men because right now I am feeling hated just because of my gender. After having a lot of women judge me I now feel women that are being nice are secretly judging me also. Don't get me wrong, I don't hate women, I love them but I am just struggling. I feel scared to open my heart as it has been abused in the past.

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      • Jimbo24

        I've always said that the men who have the most difficulty with women are those who take what they say at face-value instead of reading between the lines and noticing behavioral patterns.

        Women don't hate men, even the feminists. They just like to bitch about the men that excite them while secretly wishing one of them ignores all that stuff and puts them in their place, or takes them and make them his.

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        • You statement is not entirly true. While some men are bad at reading between the lines some women actually really do hate men. There are women out there that are man haters just like there are men out there that are women haters.

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          • BahmBitosWhap

            that is true

            no matter if people wanna admit it or not

            they're more rare but they do exist

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            • Yes, I agree that people don't want to admit it.

              However, they are not more rare. You would not believe the number of women there are out there that hate men. There are just as many women that hate men as men that hate women.

              You maybe don't notice them because your not a man trying to find a woman just like women will notice the men that hate women more. Hate comes from both genders and both genders are just as bad for it.

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        • BahmBitosWhap

          no dude a few of the feminist DO hate men lol

          crazy bitches a few of them lol XD

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          • Look at this woman that claims she is a feminist and is fighting for farting rights for women so women can fart loudly in public places.

            This is no joke there really is a woman doing this. It is a long article so if you don't want to read all of it then roll the page down to where it says "WRONG" in blue writing and read from there.

            https://thesunshinethiryblog.com/2015/01/08/another-example-of-feminism-failing-to-help-real-women-public-breastfeeding-edition/

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            • BahmBitosWhap

              i mean who cares

              if girls wanna fart then just do it lol

              i dont see what the big deal is

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      • BahmBitosWhap

        you cant give up in life

        life isnt always going to give you what you want

        you have to go for it! :)

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      • BahmBitosWhap

        dont care what people think of guys

        most people have a fair view on guys

        its just the ugly nasty hateful feminist that will tell you mean things

        its not even like they want equality or anything, its just like all they want to do is hate on guys

        they're despicable

        no no no, you cant think that just because one crazy lady told you that all men should die or some crazy shit

        shes just crazy

        see you cant think that about girls. most girls wont hate you for no reason :)
        people will usually never have a legit opinion on you until they get to know you, or of course hear things from other people and actually believe it, without actually getting to know the person themselves, unless of course they actually did go to jail

        but besides all that lol, dont let a couple girls make you think all girls are bad :)

        awww well you gotta eventually get over those bad experiences :)

        like how do they judge if you though? if you dont mind, im really curious

        theres lots of good girls :) and sure you may not always be hitting the right spot, but dont give up, keep trying over and over if you are to and im sure you can find a good girl :)

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        • It is just all in society, TV, on the internet and everywhere about how everything in the world is men's fault and about hating men. I am a kind and nice guy but I give up. It just got a little bit harder for women to find a man as there is one less. :(

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          • BahmBitosWhap

            this is the devil

            people wont believe it. they'll say its far-fetched and ridiculous, or some people wont believe in the devil at all

            but believe me, its satan

            this goes FAR beyond what you may think. this is all connected to lucifer.

            ok so ill explain it to you

            you said its on the tv, in the internet, and on peoples minds right?

            lets figure this out

            why is it in peoples minds? this is the first place we start

            its in peoples minds because someone put the idea that men are bad

            who gave women the idea that men are bad?

            the answer is feminist. feminist did. where did feminist get the idea from?

            obviously theres a big movement of feminist today that never existed 20 years ago. this is new. dont let people trick you

            yes there were movements before, but they were actually about REAL equality like voting, which is actually understandable

            today these feminist complain about literally NOTHING

            and they hate men for apparently no reason at all. but like im saying, WHY do they hate men?

            whoever it is working behind the shadows, have created this artificial feminist movement, trying to work on getting people fighting with each other, male and female fighting with each other

            this is a long rabbit hole, and you have to follow it to the end to know the full truth

            someone behind the shadows created this fake feminist movement, to divide and conquer

            does this remind you of the illuminati?

            then yes. it does. the illuminati are devil worshippers. and so therefore, part of this "hate on men" conquer and divide bullshit, stems all the way to satan

            some of the stuff you see on the internet and in real life is real. the other half is satan trying to divide and conquer.

            its not as bad as you think. the hype of hating men is trying to be exaggerated on purpose.

            dont fall into that trick. dont fall into that illusion

            thats truely what satan wants

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            • Ok, so why is it ok for these women to be like this but us men can't hate women? If you say one bad thing about a woman even if it is true as a man you get labelled a woman hater but if a woman says a bad thing about men even if it is not true people love it and men are not allowed to speak up or defend themselves.

              I have so much going though my mind.

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          • BahmBitosWhap

            you see something over and over you start to believe its true

            but its not if its only 3 people telling you that same idea again and again

            you get what im saying?

            theres over 7 billion people on earth, only a few million actually probaley believe that men are bad, partially from brainwashing, and part from personal bad experiences

            but the MAJORITY of people on this earth, get along fine with the other gender and live in peace

            dont believe the fake hype

            this is like the same bullshit a scam artist uses to hype up dying stocks, so the price can be raised, so he can sell his own worthless stocks and make tons of money

            its a illusion, they're creating to try and make everything seem all gloomy and worthless so that you DO give up

            they're trying to break YOUR WILL!! SAY FUCK THEM AND STAND UP!!!

            enough with the illusions! enough with the divide and conquer!!!

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          • BahmBitosWhap

            this is long yes lol, but it explains everything

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  • ojimpu

    She probably has problems of her own and didn't want you caught up in it. Why else would she give you the cold shoulder?

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  • Takuto

    Let me ask you something OP...what would love achieve. Really, what would you do with love.
    Oh great now I've got somebody else the take up my space, tell me what to do, act like they know me. Great now I have to pay for dates, babies, marriages and an inevitable divorce.
    The only good thing about love is intercourse and I don't even want to do that, it's simply good for the growth of the human race.
    But there's 7,000,000,000 people on Earth meaning there's absolutely no need for love.

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  • yesnomaybeso

    I had my heart broken once.
    It felt like it had broken into million of pieces. And It felt like i would never be able to "open up" and love again. Well, I haven't loved as much again to be honest, but I do feel more... ready to love again. Love is a very beautiful thing, but it includes pain sometimes... but i guess that's what makes it beautiful, if you didn't know the pain, you wouldn't know how beautiful it actually is. Okay that sounded so poetic haha.
    But I actually mean it! and it comes from a person who has loved so much, i thought i could never love anyone the same, i thought i could never love again! that was two years ago

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    • Yeah, I have a woman that I seem to be getting more and more comfortable with and she seems to be becoming the same way with me.

      It all started with her and myself now being able to look right into each other's eyes without feeling uncomfortable, then we started getting physically close and have basicly no personal bubble gap now and the other week it was raining and she came up to me and put her umbrella over me. I have also noticed she has got more comfortable with her words around me as when she first talked to me she would be like I am just going to the bathroom I will be back but the other week she was like "I have got to pee and I have got to go real bad."

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      • yesnomaybeso

        It sounds nice! go for it :))

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        • Yeah, she is a really nice woman. :) I don't mean to be offensive but some other women could learn from her about how to be better women and social skills from her.

          I have also caught her looking at my ass a few times and felt flattered.

          I think I will see her this Sunday. :)

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  • thebluecrayon57

    Hard to say, I'm in the same boat man..

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    • Sorry to hear that. Have you had women do bad things to you in the past?

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  • BlackCatsAreAwesome

    There is no such thing as love, only mutually beneficial arrangements. You must be one of those hopeless romantics. Just take the Red Pill.

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    • Actually you are wrong about me being a hopless romantic. I am more romantic than a lot of people are.

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      • BlackCatsAreAwesome

        And HRs ARE too romantic for their own good so how does that contradict my comment?

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        • I am not saying I am too romantic. I don't go around over doing it. All I know is I know the balance and what is correct and what is not. That is all I am saying.

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    • yesnomaybeso

      if you really believe that, that's so sad....
      i was in love once, it really was love.

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      • BlackCatsAreAwesome

        It was affinity.

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