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I read an article that said studies prove that most men do not care, so I'm just trying to know how true that is.
*consider it is a girl that you actually like and would like to meet more, not some chick that you don't even know her name.
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Thats weird...
If she had sex with me then I guess I was willing as well. How could I blame her for something we both did together?
If of course I wasn't willing and she still had sex with me then that would be considered rape.
So YES, I would think less of a woman who raped me on our first date.
Honestly, woman have a sex drive as well. If a woman is having sex with me on the first date, then that's cool. I'm having sex with someone i find attractive and want to make a connection with. I don't want to slut shame and I think that's wrong, so I'll just say it for what it is, it's awesome.
No. I'd think "this is great, I'm having sex with someone I find attractive".
I think guys say that they don't lose respect for women who sleep with them on the first date because those guys just wanna get laid. Once it's done the woman gets upset because the guy who appeared to be so interested doesn't call her. A lot of guys just want sex and when it's over their attitude is "been there done that."
It doesn't change my opinion of her. Though what would, is her deliberately withholding sex in a bid to influence my opinion of her. I mean, come on. Manipulative.
I would actually feel the opposite way. If a woman didn't want to have sex just because she is worried about what I or others would think... then yeah, that would be a big dealbreaker.
Some guys judge.
And some guys would never marry a girl who has sex with a guy she likes on the first date.
These guys are hypocrites. And usually assholes.
The older women get, I think the quicker things can move to sex. I guess when women get older, they realise the hypocrisy of that kind of judgement. And noone can see what you're doing alone in the night / locked room / shed / bathroom.
We especially as men have no right to think less of a woman because she let you have sex with her on the first date. If anything, she probably thinks less of men in general because she knows that that's what most men want anyway. Everybody knows that men crave pussy more than any girls wants to give it up. Everybody knows that pussy has such a powerful affect on men that it moves all the blood from a man's brain to his
to his dick. So before you judge a woman, judge yourself. Maybe she is judging you because you want sex on the first date. There is no double standard this can go both ways. If you do judge a woman because she had sex with you on the first date, then the blood that went from your brain, to your dick, needs to find it's way back up.
Not at all! In fact I probably prefer sex on the first date, I guess it depends on the situation, but I find shy, reserved and sexually conservative girls a major turn off! Having someone who is confident enough to fuck on the first date is sexy! Me and my girlfriend hooked up before we were even dating, it was obvious we were interested in eacg other before that, so it wasn't like a random hookup! Now we're happily together!
See, theres two schools of thought here.
One: Its somehow more respectable to hold out on the first date in order to make a connection. The problem with this, and its mainly on the woman, is that most of the time you try TOO hard to make that connection that really isn't there. Which causes friction in this budding romantic relationship. "Oh, he doesn't understand me." Which usually means sex is off the table, the male loses interest, and you've both wasted 4 dates, about 300 dollars in dinner/movies/unused condoms, and each others time.
The second issue is the hypocrisy. Women don't like to give it up on the first date not because they lose the respect of men. This may be a highly guarded industry secret, but men love it when women fuck on the first date. Sure, we love your personality and your interests and yada yada where were we going with this, oh yeah boobs....Women don't bone on the first date because they'll lose the respect of other women. Laura puts out after dinner, tells Kelly, Kelly calls Laura a slut, even though Kelly just got out of a gangbang with 5 guys and ger old friend Jessica, and we ALL know what a whore Jessica is....
Come on ladies. Quit acting like you have this unblemished perfect track record of being chaste and restrained. Unleash that inner whore, become that oft fantasized about total slut. Us men know you want to. You know you want to. So do it.
I think less of women who avoid sex for a long time. Makes me feel undesired.
I had sex with my boyfriend on our first date and we both loved it. We're now living together, our house is being built, next year we'll get married and then we'll have a baby.
However I think that many men would think less if a woman had sex on the first date ( we're supposed to say no until at least the 3rd date, haha big joke).
On my part I have always lived my life the way I wanted.
No I pretty much Love women like that and I would still respect them I think theres nothing wrong with dex st anytime we all Have needs and if were doing it together thats awsome Love!
I hold all people besides myself and my mother, in no regard whatsoever.
I like/pay attention to a woman more if she puts out quickly, though who she is as a person means nothing to me. But I'm not so mean as to openly say such things to people, I simply am this way underneath.
Since I don't date just to date, but I date to find my wife, I wouldn't even be having sex on the first date, and I don't want a girl who would.
Who the fuck would think less of a woman who just let you fuck her!?!?!?
If I've known the woman for a while and we just decided to date, no problem.
If I just met the girl on the first date, I question her motives.
Why though? I don't get it. I've seen many times guys flirting with girls and persuading them to have sex, then the girl finally agrees and they do it. As soon as they're done they go around calling the girl a slut. What did you expect her to do? Do you wanted her to reject you? I don't get this logic. If it wasn't for those called "sluts" most guys wouldn't have any sexual experience. It's completely irrational to expect guys to have a lot of sex and expect girls not to. Who are the (straight) guys supposed to be having sex with then?
You hit the nail on the head; pretty much summed up the how dumb slut shaming is.
All I said was I'd think less of a woman who did that. Any coherent person who felt this way would not be persuading unknown women to have sex with him right away. I am one, so I don't. Those that do what you are saying are plain idiots, don't bother trying to find some logic behind that. I'm sure there's lot's of them. But don't ask me to explain their behavior.
It's the same as the stereotypical woman who says she wants a well behaved man who respects her but in the end is only attracted to those that treat her badly. It's just idiotic people not knowing what they want (or unwilling to admit what they want), nothing more.
You make a good point, but let me clarify something. I was talking about a hypothetical situation in which I was involved. If I was getting to know a woman and she wanted to have sex right away (which by the way, has always happened to me so far) I'd think less of her in terms of what I'm looking for (again, this is what's always happened to me so far). But I didn't mean it like, if she did it with someone else I'd pass judgement or anything. It doesn't matter to me, and believe me, I've had my share of slutty friends and I didn't pass judgement then.
Oh, I see. But this whole thing is the most ridiculous double standard ever. Its like men are expected and allowed to screw whoever they want whenever they want but if a girl does it she's automatically a whore. It drives me nuts.
I know it is. What I'm saying is: if I'm getting to know a woman and she's willing to have sex right away before things get the slightest meaning, then what value does sharing that experience with her have to me? Hardly any.
Of course, a woman could say the same thing about a man. I think the difference is that women have already accepted it as a fact and settle for men not caring about the value of sex, they try to look beyond this because they believe it's inevitable. Men (some of them, at least) don't.