Do you like dislike eye contact?

There appears to be a trend nowadays where people are loosing the habit of making eye-contact as a form of friendly gesture. I grew up in a family that stressed this very simple habit. When someone approaches you, proceed to make eye-contact and recognize them with a smile or nod( at least ! ). It was an expression of general recognition and respect! The only reason I'm fuming about this is because I happened to make contact with a person this morning and he avoided looking at me in fear as if he would catch a disease! I bluntly greeted him with a "GOOD MORNING" but didn't offer him much time to respond.

So I question the nature of this very simple courtesy. Has this form of greeting come to its demise among younger generations? If so why?

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  • Maya05

    I don't like making eye contact for more then a second. I just feel VERY awkward and uncomfortable when I am looking at someone's eyes. I'm always looking around everywhere else to avoid eye contact. In situations where it is Very important to make eye contact, like a job interview or talking to your employer I just look at their nose or somewhere close to their eyes.
    I have a lot of anxiety in social situations so this probably is connected with that.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers

    Sometimes eye contact can be akward, sometimes it can be sweet, sometimes it can make you realize you love someone but on the other hand it can make you realize you hate someone, at times it can be intimidating and sometimes it can be comforting, hell sometimes its used as a way to tell someone you're paying attention when you are daydreaming and can't hear a word. It can make feel self concious but can also make two people feel close. It's such a subjective thing

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  • bananaface

    I make eye contact with the vast majority of people. However, there are a few people who I can't make eye contact with for long, although if I'm in a conversation with them I will glance every now and again and I'll try. Am I trying to be impolite to these few people? Of course not. I don't know why I'm like this with these few people, maybe they just intimidated me, I don't know. It's certainly not out of rudeness, though.

    Some people find it hard to make eye contact with most or even everyone, and it's not nice to call them rude just because you don't understand why they're doing it. They're not deliberately trying to not look the other person in the eye. It can be hard for some people.:) It's not an always an attempt to be impolite.

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  • Gloom

    I hate eye contact and don't usually make it. It sucks that I was born into a culture of people who feel entitled to eye contact from others.

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  • I have been told that I have a very "analytical" gaze. Due to this I tend not to stare into others eyes for too long at a time, it makes some very uncomfortable.

    Like I'm eating your soul or some shit.

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  • dirtybirdy

    I don't think people are used to actual human interactions these days. Not like it used to be anyway. Fuckin computers.

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  • Some people are born without spines. It causes an inability to make eye contact.

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    • bananaface

      Huh, I would've thought being born without eyes would cause an inability to make eye contact. )

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      • It's metaphorical. It means that some people do not have the courage to make eye contact. My manager at work never makes eye contact when talking to people because he is always lying. He can't face them. Spineless coward.

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      • myownopinions

        Hehe, I got that.

        )

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        • bananaface

          Yay! D This eyeless thing seems to be a recurring thing for me, eek! O

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  • mana

    I'm sorry but eye contact is hard for me, I try to look at people but then I am only able to hold eye contact for a second or two before I automatically look away, I don't get it. Though, I am both autistic and have social anxiety.
    People don't say anything about not holding eye contact though, maybe the culture I live in is more forgiving in this. Or maybe they're silently angry at me.

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  • GoraIntoDesiGals

    I like it with attractive girls.

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  • NIKKKOLE

    I like eye contact. It shows respect, interest and shows you may be listening.
    I hate when I'm talking to my friends and they're just messaging on their phones, it rages me but I don't say anything.
    I think because of the technology we have nowadays it's causing most people to lose face to face people skills.

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  • loopoo

    I can only make eye contact with people I know really well

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  • RoseIsabella

    For the most part I prefer to make eye contact with people. Of course if someone is creepy or makes me uncomfortable or if I just don't like them I will tend to limit eye contact. I don't stare into random people's eyes or care to lose myself in their eyes or have them attempt to do that to me unless I have a very intimate friendship with said person. When I encounter a person who engages me in friendly conversation but is unable to make eye contact I immediately notice. A part of me feels sorry for the person and tends to think they have poor social skills and I find myself wondering why and how they were so poorly raised. Also when a person avoids eye contact I tend to feel they are mentally weak, untrustworthy and probably a liar. Sometimes when someone is engaging me in active conversation but absolutely refuses to make eye contact I'll find myself aggressively trying to follow their eyes with mine to make contact. It's actually quite funny to watch. I absolutely hate it when someone who can't look me in the eye actually has the nerve to hit on me and can't help but think the person is very shady and undesirable. Eye contact is very important!

    I can sympathize if someone has a lazy eye but they better engage with the good one!

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  • starie

    I personally enjoy making eye contact, especially with the ones i care about the most. It feels great, like your connecting with them on a different level.

    As a child, i'd do so as a sign of respect. As a teen i tended to stop because of self esteem issues. Once i grew up though and started to create closer bonds with the people around me, it all came back.

    I think eye contact is a sign of being a stable and ballanced person.

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  • This topic made me wonder something. I know I am sussposed to make eye contact with people when I am talking to them, but is it expected to make eye contact when passing by people who you are not in conversation with? It seems that would be unnecessary but do they think Im rude if I dont? I dont have social instincts so I have had to learn what is approperiate.

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    • starie

      Where i live, if i pass someone on the street you're meant to make eye contact and say good morning or whatever other form of greating.

      I don't do so with people a few years younger than me since they're teens. They just look to the floor and pass on. It's kinda rude but i get it. I used to do it to.

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      • I never really look at or talk to random people I havent met, but rarely does anyone do that to me either. I've even heard of people getting their ass kicked for looking at someone.

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        • starie

          Lol well i do live on a small island where practically everyone knows everyone lol imagine Itally or something.

          I've been to England once and no one really seems to give a crap about anyone else around them unless they know them or are in a situation where they have to get to know them. It seems kinda cold to me.

          I found it to be bad but then i remembered how it was when i grew up in Australia. I don't remember greating everyone around me but it never felt like a bad thing because i knew if i spoke to someone they would be kind back (well atleast that's what it felt like)

          I guess it depends on where you live (different cultures, etc...)

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