Oh, geez. I actually wrote a long story about this, but I couldn't get it posted (now I have explain all over again). Let me explain. First of all: she doesn't have ill parents. Here's the entire story:
She finished school at 25 (with an MBA her parents paid for) and has never searched for a job since. She started a small business but it didn't go too well (because it was mismanaged). But now she just sits around at home all the time. When I meet her parents before we're out to go some place, they ask me and some of our other friends to "talk her into finding a job" or "please help her find vacancies" because she has younger siblings and they'd like my friend to be able to take care of herself so her parents can focus on financing the younger ones, so it's not about her parents not wanting her to work (they're not like filthy rich or anything, she DOES have to work). She's stingy sometimes and very calculating, but she demands the best. And she's interested in beauty and fashion, and the "high life". I like the finer things in life too, but I work for it. I mean, how can I help her get a job without being offensive? I want to help her because when she's unemployed and broke, she's insecure and she ends up hurting a lot of people to make up for her insecurities.
Because it's the truth perhaps? If the friend's parents really want the girl to move out and get a job... the easiest way is to stop providing her free room and board.
I mean if you have a 20-something child still sucking off the parental milk supply... why would she give that up?
But take the milk away from her and... gee maybe she'll suddenly realize rent and food don't just fall from the Mommy & Daddy Tree... you have to earn it.
Thus... she'll go out and get a job.
You don't teach birds how to fly by gluing them to the nest. You teach them how to fly by kicking their butts out of it.
Do you know someone like the person I just described? Is it common?
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Oh, geez. I actually wrote a long story about this, but I couldn't get it posted (now I have explain all over again). Let me explain. First of all: she doesn't have ill parents. Here's the entire story:
She finished school at 25 (with an MBA her parents paid for) and has never searched for a job since. She started a small business but it didn't go too well (because it was mismanaged). But now she just sits around at home all the time. When I meet her parents before we're out to go some place, they ask me and some of our other friends to "talk her into finding a job" or "please help her find vacancies" because she has younger siblings and they'd like my friend to be able to take care of herself so her parents can focus on financing the younger ones, so it's not about her parents not wanting her to work (they're not like filthy rich or anything, she DOES have to work). She's stingy sometimes and very calculating, but she demands the best. And she's interested in beauty and fashion, and the "high life". I like the finer things in life too, but I work for it. I mean, how can I help her get a job without being offensive? I want to help her because when she's unemployed and broke, she's insecure and she ends up hurting a lot of people to make up for her insecurities.
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it's simple...
when her parents ask you to "talk her into finding a job" tell them to stop enabling her.
if they kick her out i'm sure she'll find motivation to find a job
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Really? You had him/her type all that for your shitty answer? Ridiculous.
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Seriously? How so?
Because it's the truth perhaps? If the friend's parents really want the girl to move out and get a job... the easiest way is to stop providing her free room and board.
I mean if you have a 20-something child still sucking off the parental milk supply... why would she give that up?
But take the milk away from her and... gee maybe she'll suddenly realize rent and food don't just fall from the Mommy & Daddy Tree... you have to earn it.
Thus... she'll go out and get a job.
You don't teach birds how to fly by gluing them to the nest. You teach them how to fly by kicking their butts out of it.