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I think it depends on the circumstances. I mean, if your parents needed special care or care that you couldn't give them yourself for whatever reason, then by all means a nursing home is appropriate.

What a hell?
Do you want to spend the rest of your healthy life (until you also get old) killing yourself to someone, whoever it is?

I've got a grandfhater that is completly dependent of people. He doesn't do almost anything. Even eating sometimes he does it worng and almost asphyxiates himelf!
My grandmother doesn't have a peaceful life has she should, he is constantly calling for her.

It is stupid in my opinion to give up of some IMPORTANT part of your life to someone else when you can have someone who doesn't mind doing that to do so.

On the other hand, I have other grandfather and grandmother that are not that dependant, and make their lifes almost on their one (just need sometimes transportation, for exemple through bigger cities where is more traffic).
Maybe one day they will need more help, AND, they, themselfs, have gone to a place ike that on their ones! And for sure it was not for not having family support.

I think it depends on the place you choose. Like said before.

I am a nurse and have worked in nursing homes and am now currently doing home care and look after them in their own homes so they don't have to go into a nursing home. Most of my clients are fine living at home with nurses and cleaning staff to help them but I have a few who really need more care. They would be better in a nursing home or if they had nursing in their home 24/7. My clients with dementia forget where they are and just last week one lady left her freezer open and all her ready made meals defrosted and spoilt. When I asked her why the door to the freezer was open she told me she was letting it air as it was empty and it was totally full. One of my clients left her gas on and passed out from the fumes and was found just in time,another went walk about and got lost,the police were involved and luckily she was found!! I've talked to their families and they either don't think they are that bad or refuse to put them into more care(such as a nursing home). On the other hand,I personally don't like nursing homes, its like working on a production line and thats why I changed paths. Some nursing homes are great though and as long as You make sure the one You choose for a loved one is 100% ok and visit regularly and do what you can to help then your NOT a bad person. In a nursing home they have 24hour a day nursing help if anything was to happen.
Hiring a live in nurse is extremely expensive and you would need more than one as the other would need days off and time for themselves but its a personal preference.
As long as you know what you choose is the right decision then it shouldn't matter what we or anyone else thinks.

I think it's a bit messed up. I'd much rather hire an aid for them at their home than send them to an old folks home. But I for one would NEVER in my right mind take them in under my roof when I'm good and healthy. My parents got married old and by the time they're 75, I'll still be extremely young with young children so that wouldn't work out and I don't want to waste my youth taking care of them when they didn't do so for their own parents.

What is wrong with old folks homes? I think they look good. Wouldnt mind living there myself. Its a nice peaceful place where people cook meals for you and you get a warm bed!

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It really depends on the circumstances. Firstly, only if the parents are too sick or weak to take care of themselves. I come from a family where most of them that live till there old age can still take care of themselves easily, even to their seventies and eighties. As for the ones that cant, we take care of them, and only temporaraly send them to a home if they need care that we are unable to provide. If we do have to send them to a home, we talk it over and we make sure there getting into a good home. None of my family has ever had to be in a home for more than a few months, as they are well enough to return to their home.

I will never do it. I love my parents. I would never disrespect them by sending them away like that.

No, you're not a bad person if you send your parents to a nursing home. You should be sure to choose a really good one though. There are horrific stories everywhere about them. Make sure your parents are well cared for.

And visit them whenever you can. Visits from children and grandchildren will usually make their whole day happy :).

It depends why they sent them away. Some old folks have mental problems and that is why they are sent to a home that knows how to deal with it. 'sometimes they can not afford to pay for the care of them so send them away.

People have their reasons for sending their parents to an old folks home, so I know fairly well that I cannot just assume a person is an unfilial child for sending their parents to one.

For myself, though, I could never bear to do it...I mean, my parents took care of me their whole lives, it's only fair that I take care of them in return. I'd only send them to a home if I really don't have the means to take care of them.

no. it depends on the situation. if you find a really good (and engaging, happy) place for them and they are also impossible to care for on your own, and you are in fact basically on your own in regards to caring for them (a 24 hour job) and feel overwhelmed...then i'd say not a 'bad person' (not a great practice to think in 'bad or good' terms, though)....especially if you make efforts to visit and give them as much love as possible, and make sure they're comfortable where they are. i only say all of this because i have 4 older relatives with no immediate family other than me, and i often wonder how in the hell i'm supposed to take care of them all if and when they become infirm, by myself...it is overwhelming to think about and i've seen how difficult it is to take care of one infirm person (my grandma)...my family is determined to keep her at home till she dies and that is beautiful, but it currently involves the intensive help of 7 or so people because she has dementia and needs constant supervision no matter the time of day or night.