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Durings the moments when you're withdrawn from things around you, or just sitting quietly, do you think of things you did in the past which you now think you did them wrongly, and wish you could go back and fix?
Personally, I recall my teenage years in school and realize how rude I have been in some situations! I hate 'the past me' so much! Am I the only one? :S
| Yes, quite often | 126 | |
| Yes, but occasionally | 68 | |
| No, not really | 43 | |
| Other (Add a comment) | 4 |
I've heard a saying somewhere online, it says...
We're not born with instructions, so it's ok to make mistakes
hope everyone will get over their past, coz whats done is done! :D
hmm... yes, this is true... but you only have one life.. after that gameover, and what if you just-so-happened to already screw up EVERYTHING in your life? and the worst part about it is... you already know that you killed it... and yet your still breathing...
Does that thought ever come to you?
And/Or The fact of you KNOW that you fucked up that badly...
and i'm just so "happy" to say... Im a victim of that.
Just a thought... and [OF COURSE] sayings beat out thoughts..
Haha.
Hmm... it sounds really negative to me! :( but look at the statistics of the poll, it must be very normal to blame ourselves on what we've done in the past. You should know you are not alone!
I have screwed up quite a lot actually, career and relationship, etc. but I'm trying to get up from where I've fallen, if you know what I mean. Perhaps we don't see a way now, but hopefully and slowly we will find it! That's what my mom said.
That's just life! Wish you all the best! :D xx
i dont think anyone should hate themselves. sometimes i look back on bad comments or embarassing situations and im just like`whyyyy did i say that ?` but im not exactly hating myself im just hating the memory
Yes I do regret things I have done in the past but that is history.
I have also been doing some more thinking and what really is bugging me now, IS HOW ROTTEN I HAVE BEEN TO EVERONE HERE. IF YOU CAN SEE TO IT AND PLEASE EXCEPT A SINCERE APPOLOGY WOULD APPRECIATE.
If not, I do have to admit I really deserve your hate, I have been one mean and nasty bitch. But been thinking and we may not agree on things, but I should of stated my side WITH A HELL OF ALOT LESS NAME CALLINGS AND BACK STABBINGS.
Really mean what I am stating.
Hey Moron I'm glad to hear that you've had a think and changed your ways. I hope that it will make you happier as a person. You'll set a good example for your sons :) and it'll be good for your health. Well I'll see you round the site. Take care :)
Hey Jellytot:
Thanks for your kind response, and yes, my family is all ready seeing the changes in me. And hope it will spread here as well. Please sir or mame, I tain't preaching just stating what made the change in me, first of all I sat down and bashed my head against the wall and realised that I ain't no better than any of you, we are all the same, with maybe the exception of our different nationality cultures, but people are people and no one is better than the next, I HATED BEING A BITCHY OLDE BITCH OF A CANNUCK and realise change then you fat slob. Plus please do not get mad at this statement, what I was stating before was false, I also had a talk with God and he took away my fake Christian ways and put in real ones which is the fact we are all the same no one is better than the next. Thanks again, and yes, you will be seeig THE NEW ME around this site. :D
"I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they're right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together."
— Marilyn Monroe
Favorite quote :)
The only thing I regret is not doing more things that I would have regretted..
Every. Day. 22/7... the other to hours are when i stare at my ceiling in slience...Fixing the problem (and outcomes) in my "sleepless" dreams.
yes sometimes when i dont have a girlfriend but then i like myself because i have great talents.
I hate the way I think.It's like obsessive complusive thinking,but only about things that make me feel bad:(
i don't just hate the past me.i just hate the present me too. i'm at war with myself everyday.i try to change.but...
For me, I wasnt really rude or anything in my past years, I was very sweet and extremely naive, and also a bit on the weird side -- and I did a lot of stupid stuff that I now regret soooo bad. It was mostly embarrassing for me, my childhood.
But things are better now, and I would NOT go back and change even a second of it. I am who I am now, because of every little second that went by that I laughed or cried or was embarrassed, and I love me now, regardless of anyone elses opinion about me.
Can not be said to hate myself, but sometimes does not like his character, hope that it will change!
i do wish i could change things in the past but im quite happy with the old me in some situations i used to get bullied and i let it happen i think thatz the only thing i would change xx
Well, I remember there was once I didn't turn up for a music lesson in school. The teacher phoned me and urged me to go to see her. I was pissed and shouted at her that I did not want the lesson.
There was also once the choir directer kept blaming me for not looking at him while practising. I was furious coz he told me off in front of everybody...
The list goes on... It's been a few years since I left school. I just can't believe I used to be so immature! I hope I could 're-wind' time and change myself :D
I hate myself. Not just the past me but also the present me. I think it is mainly because I am a huge perfectionist. It is definitely a problem though, and I am seriously trying to fix it... with little success.
I think creative people suffer this more than most. In striving for perfection, all they see is their own imperfection. I suffered it as much an anyone. What I did was narrow my focus until I found something good (some piece I'd written), and then narrow it again to find something great (a beautiful sentence), and then again to find something that was as good as it could be (a single word that couldn't possibly be bettered by any other word).
Perfection isn't something you achieve in a wider sense. It's a tiny little pinprick of light that, if you ever see it, you have to count yourself lucky and always remember that you are capable of seeing it. And that's enough.
If it's not enough for you yet, it will be.
I completely agree with all of that; I mean logically, I believe it. Unfortunately, the feelings of low self-worth continue to arise. My therapist has given me work sheets and stuff to help challenge these thoughts so I'll see how that goes!
You always give such great advice :) You seem like a genuinely kind person.
When you hate yourself, you're treading on deadly ground. Be very careful that you do not hurt your psyche. No one else can really hurt you but you. I tend to look at my life is unresolved, unfinished and underdeveloped, which it is, and that makes me hate myself. Being in the same position in life with no change or growth makes me hate my life and therefore myself. But this is walking on dangerous ground. You can destroy yourself if you don't take care. I hope scaring you like this doesn't hate yourself more.
Sir/ Or Miss...
You scare no one.
I hate myself to so-call "save" myself in public, for example...
I had to much self confedence last year, a preppy lil girl... lost all my friends, hope, (and oh yeah, i got good grades... like that matters...) oh, and the fact that no guy has liked me since 1st fukkin grade tht i actully liked back...oh and i am continiously called lesbo. even though i am NOT just cuz i cant get a guy....not only tht, but i have terrible acne.
I BELIEVE YOU'LL FIND THESE REASONS VERY REASONABLE TO HATE MYSELF.
BUT...
now tht i hate myself, i have gotten the title of "Sickest (and only) punk-chick at school" Wearing black, going skater, average (good a,b,c grades, not best anymore) grades, and LIEING....
i suppose your gonna say tht unhealthy too?
Yes, im well aware, but i lie i am in a relationship to prevent further embarasment.
Do u wanna comment back on tht or...
Do u understand y people hate themselves now?
Yes. I am fully aware that self loathing is not healthy way to think because I have experienced it first hand. I think it is one of the main reasons that I became depressed or maybe the depression caused me to hate myself? Who knows! I'm working on it though :) Best of luck to you as well.
It's weird how the people who are most self-critical are usually the ones with the most to give. You've been here ever since I started on IIN and I've never seen you give bad advice in all that time. I like that there are people like you on the site. It balances out some of the people who direct all their hate outwards. I know they're normal as well, but I can never understand people like that.
Hope things work out for you. :)
I think with you, it seems like your more dissapointed with your past actions. Its no reason to hate yourself, whats past is past.
However, i have on occations hated my lack of openness to my friends. I can rant all i want online but can never tell my family and freinds who the compleat real me is. but I think with my family background, opening up will only lead to crappier life, so sometimes, yes.. i hate myself. But i try to find things not to hate.