I'm a fairly forgiving person, but find it very difficult, in some cases impossible, to forgive people who kick me when I'm already down, also people who believe lies about me without checking with me first.
Right now I'm grieving the very recent unexpected death of a much loved but very damaged family member who spread lies about me to other relatives and was believed: it feels almost unbelievably hideous that she died after cutting off all contact and there's now no hope of any resolution with her. To make it even worse, nobody told me about her death and I didn't even know she was ill: my daughter found out by chance and told me about it, a day after the death.
I don't feel any need to forgive the man who raped me, but on the other hand I've forgiven people I really love for shit treatment, in some cases deciding I need to love them from a distance for a while to avoid more bullshit and pain.
Do you forgive or hold a grudge
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I'm a fairly forgiving person, but find it very difficult, in some cases impossible, to forgive people who kick me when I'm already down, also people who believe lies about me without checking with me first.
Right now I'm grieving the very recent unexpected death of a much loved but very damaged family member who spread lies about me to other relatives and was believed: it feels almost unbelievably hideous that she died after cutting off all contact and there's now no hope of any resolution with her. To make it even worse, nobody told me about her death and I didn't even know she was ill: my daughter found out by chance and told me about it, a day after the death.
I don't feel any need to forgive the man who raped me, but on the other hand I've forgiven people I really love for shit treatment, in some cases deciding I need to love them from a distance for a while to avoid more bullshit and pain.