I don't know how I feel about spanking as a whole, as I don't have any children, and there may be some ocassions where it's appropriate.
I'm being very honest and vulnerable in saying this, but I do consider myself to be an adult child of a dysfunctional family. I couldn't agree more with your statement that, "you don't need to make children fear you"! I can't think of anyone I fear for whom I have even an ounce of respect! I naturally resent those people who instill fear in me.
If I were in a burning building and there was a person I feared on one end and someone I loved on the other I think I would instinctively save the one I loved!
Yup. I'm not saying that anyone who smacks their kids is evil (contrary to what some contrary people assume) but that it should not be the go to option. More often than not, when I've seen someone smack their kid, it has been because they have lost control of the situation and of themselves. They're human. Everyone has a breaking point. But to say that the best way to deal with children is to use physical punishment (actual or threats of) and to say that as if it is good general advice, to me indicates that person is not in control and has a severe lack of actual parenting skills.
Do you discipline your kids?
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I don't know how I feel about spanking as a whole, as I don't have any children, and there may be some ocassions where it's appropriate.
I'm being very honest and vulnerable in saying this, but I do consider myself to be an adult child of a dysfunctional family. I couldn't agree more with your statement that, "you don't need to make children fear you"! I can't think of anyone I fear for whom I have even an ounce of respect! I naturally resent those people who instill fear in me.
If I were in a burning building and there was a person I feared on one end and someone I loved on the other I think I would instinctively save the one I loved!
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Yup. I'm not saying that anyone who smacks their kids is evil (contrary to what some contrary people assume) but that it should not be the go to option. More often than not, when I've seen someone smack their kid, it has been because they have lost control of the situation and of themselves. They're human. Everyone has a breaking point. But to say that the best way to deal with children is to use physical punishment (actual or threats of) and to say that as if it is good general advice, to me indicates that person is not in control and has a severe lack of actual parenting skills.