Spanking and hitting never worked on me. I simply got use to the pain. And yelling for hours didnt work either. Id end up tuning them out. In my opinion kids should be sat down and told why what they did is wrong, who it affects, and why. Teach them to be better people, rather than just getting them use to yelling and pain.
As most teens consider everybody else to be the stupidest creatures ever to live, I don't think most can be "be sat down and told why what they did is wrong, who it affects, and why."
I found that with a child labeled as "ungovernable" by the state of Florida, a fear of serious physical punishment was sufficient to keep her from using drugs and keep her alive, and not even the fear of incarceration by her social workers worked like the fear of what I would do to her if she took drugs.
Sorry, but IMO there is a place for the threat of corporal punishment, especially these days, where kids get almost anything the want, handed to them on a silver platter.
As above, it's the foundations that are important. If a child is explained to, treated with respect, and disciplined (not physically punished) from a young age, then it becomes ingrained.
I don't know what stage you got the kid you're talking about in, but it sounds like the damage was already done in that situation. That's hardly applicable to every child.
Some kids that may work better on. It didnt work on me at all. For me it was better to explain things. I guess itd be more of a case by case basis, what works best on that individual.
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Spanking and hitting never worked on me. I simply got use to the pain. And yelling for hours didnt work either. Id end up tuning them out. In my opinion kids should be sat down and told why what they did is wrong, who it affects, and why. Teach them to be better people, rather than just getting them use to yelling and pain.
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As most teens consider everybody else to be the stupidest creatures ever to live, I don't think most can be "be sat down and told why what they did is wrong, who it affects, and why."
I found that with a child labeled as "ungovernable" by the state of Florida, a fear of serious physical punishment was sufficient to keep her from using drugs and keep her alive, and not even the fear of incarceration by her social workers worked like the fear of what I would do to her if she took drugs.
Sorry, but IMO there is a place for the threat of corporal punishment, especially these days, where kids get almost anything the want, handed to them on a silver platter.
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As above, it's the foundations that are important. If a child is explained to, treated with respect, and disciplined (not physically punished) from a young age, then it becomes ingrained.
I don't know what stage you got the kid you're talking about in, but it sounds like the damage was already done in that situation. That's hardly applicable to every child.
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Nothing is applicable to every child, agreed?
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Nope, but 99% of the time, if you start with a good foundation...
Having to resort to physical discipline or emotional manipulation is an indication of the parenting skills more than the child.
Some kids that may work better on. It didnt work on me at all. For me it was better to explain things. I guess itd be more of a case by case basis, what works best on that individual.