Do you believe in marriage?

The way people say they don't "believe" in something like marriage, that is not a "belief" but a "fact" irks me, but never mind that.

I used to agree with marriage when I was religious. Now, I see it as a hassle. I don't want the whole fuss, on a financial level, or on an emotional level. I don't want to be the 'centre of attention', I don't want to waste a shitload of money that could be spent on a house deposit, or putting money away for my future kids.

For me, I think being in a committed relationship is enough, there is no need for paperwork to "prove" that I love someone and want to be with them for the rest of my life. That in itself would be enough for me to work on maintaining a relationship. I wouldn't feel like it was any lesser because it wasn't "official".

The only real consideration I'd give it is if the guy I was with really wanted it. If it was important to him, then I would do it, purely because what he wants would be important to me because HE would be important to me. But I'd rather just sign the damn papers at the registrar's office or whatever the fuck it is you do. If you need the whole family and friends involved shit, then have a barbeque or something.

Fuck, I ranted. And used a lot of "quotations". Meh.

I want to get married one day to someone I love. When I was a little kid, I didnt have a place in 'my family' I was always left out and it never felt like it was a family I was a part of. So I thought I would someday create a family of my own and be happy. To be married is just the begining of creating a family. Yeah, I believe in marriage.

Sometimes the paperwork is nice for health insurance reasons, though. Here in the US, I can't get proper medical care until my fiancé and I get married so I can get on his insurance plan through his work. I could get an individual insurance plan, but they're really expensive and not subject to some of the legislation that protects people insured under group plans. That's not the only reason we're getting married, of course, but it's part of it.

My view on this is that marraige started as a way to show someone they were willing to dedicate their life to them. These days dating seems to be a much more long-winded matter. You usually date for years till you settle on someone and I think that makes it less of a big deal since you'll have already thought and talked about alot if you've been together for so long.
I think for alot of people these days its more about creating a memory. Something that (hopefully) will happen once a lifetime. And something that you can take great enjoyment out of it, a nice gathering of people you care about, a nice holiday with the one you love. Things that make you happy.
So hopefully you won't be one of those people who ends up making it a big stressfull deal

My fiancee left me recently, I lost hope in everything including marriage, there's no pain worse than being in a loving relationship and cuddling someone to just be left with no explination sitting in my room crying myself to sleep. So to answer your question, I have no idea if its a good idea or bad idea.

Look at history. Marriage is an institution. When it started it wasn't about love. Nowadays people that are in love are getting married (except homosexuals :( ) but it's still just an institution.