Too many PC comments. Yes, they can drive you up the wall. Sadly, you have to be a fair weather friend to them if you are friends with them in the first place, to protect your sanity; don't expect them to be there for you when you need them on an empathetic level. With these clear boundaries, aggravation will drop considerably. With that said, they ARE human and they ARE struggling with the whole NT/Autistic divide.
What you're calling PC comments are people being genuinely supportive and accepting of difference, but I don't think you're approving of that because you say there are "too many" of these comments - how could there be?
People not being there isn't confined to people with these conditions, I've experienced it many times and am experiencing it right now from some "normal" people, including family, I've supported in the past but who just don't reciprocate. Lack of empathy isn't confined to any one group, on my down days I think it's endemic
Actually, you DON'T have to be a fair-weather friend. That's where you went wrong. If you don't have the kind of tolerance and patience to be a friend, and you think you're too cool to be seen in public with someone you think isn't trendy enough to be in your social circle, then that person deserves better. Plain and simple.
Also, there are some that DO have empathy and ARE there for you. Loyalty is their middle name. That right there is the problem. It's the fair-weather friends that use them to feel better about themselves and try to take advantage of Aspies and auties. That's why I'm glad I've been trained to read people and why I ditch them at the first sign of flakiness. REAL friends are always there when you need them.
As far as far as empathy is concerned, I don't know what pseudointellectual charlatan told you that, but that's inaccurate. I never left anyone hanging in the dirt. I also saved the lives of two people while there were others around in the vicinity who stood there with their thumbs up their asses not knowing what to do and just stood there and watched. Our society PERIOD is quite deficient in empathy, compassion, and solidarity, and NT's make up 99.9% of the entire population.
Do people with autism and Asperger's ever get on your nerves?
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Too many PC comments. Yes, they can drive you up the wall. Sadly, you have to be a fair weather friend to them if you are friends with them in the first place, to protect your sanity; don't expect them to be there for you when you need them on an empathetic level. With these clear boundaries, aggravation will drop considerably. With that said, they ARE human and they ARE struggling with the whole NT/Autistic divide.
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What you're calling PC comments are people being genuinely supportive and accepting of difference, but I don't think you're approving of that because you say there are "too many" of these comments - how could there be?
People not being there isn't confined to people with these conditions, I've experienced it many times and am experiencing it right now from some "normal" people, including family, I've supported in the past but who just don't reciprocate. Lack of empathy isn't confined to any one group, on my down days I think it's endemic
Actually, you DON'T have to be a fair-weather friend. That's where you went wrong. If you don't have the kind of tolerance and patience to be a friend, and you think you're too cool to be seen in public with someone you think isn't trendy enough to be in your social circle, then that person deserves better. Plain and simple.
Also, there are some that DO have empathy and ARE there for you. Loyalty is their middle name. That right there is the problem. It's the fair-weather friends that use them to feel better about themselves and try to take advantage of Aspies and auties. That's why I'm glad I've been trained to read people and why I ditch them at the first sign of flakiness. REAL friends are always there when you need them.
As far as far as empathy is concerned, I don't know what pseudointellectual charlatan told you that, but that's inaccurate. I never left anyone hanging in the dirt. I also saved the lives of two people while there were others around in the vicinity who stood there with their thumbs up their asses not knowing what to do and just stood there and watched. Our society PERIOD is quite deficient in empathy, compassion, and solidarity, and NT's make up 99.9% of the entire population.
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Great reply, esp your take on empathy and lack of it, I totally agree