Do guys like the woman to make the effort ?

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Seriously I'm the worst of the worst at speaking especially to men.
Never had a boyfriend and recently joined a dating site, an odd one will come through that I really like but I don't know if it's me that ruins it because I begin to like them then realise that when they don't message back or after a few days if they haven't replied and I make myself known and maybe it's pushed them away.

But I have found a lad who thinks I'm good looking and me him. It was a fun convo at first but he has stopped replying. I'm doing things differently by keeping it to the dating app. And not double messaging if he doesn't reply but honestly it's hard. Do guys like the girls making the effort ?
I think he either doesn't check or is busy but if other girls are messaging and I'm not I'll be at the bottom of the list and if he doesn't see me he might not reply... so when is it acceptable to say hey again?

Or what can I say without seeming desperate but getting to know him?

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  • Aries
    6 years ago | pl

    if you have to force it then it was never meant to be . If you come onto a guy in real life , yes we love the effort it is sexy . In this scenario , you will just seem like an easy target for using .

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  • JonathanOo
    6 years ago | pl

    Get his number so he won't be on the app talking to you. Also, guys can prefer a woman to be more forward, otherwise they may feel as if they aren't liked or you don't have the same interest

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  • SeriousChipotlePirate
    6 years ago | pl

    I can only speak for myself here, but I like effort.. idk about others but apparently having some chase in a relationship is good. For your case tho, you have to be your own judge. I guess take him on a date and ask him...idk... sincerity and communication is good.

    (I'm not helping much am I?)

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  • bulbasaur64
    6 years ago | pl

    Some guys are shy and like when women make the first move, whereas other guys don't. It's all individual personality.
    Personally, I'd take the chance and contact him. There's nothing to lose by trying.

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  • StinkyPickle
    6 years ago | pl

    Normal behavior at dating sites is to communicate with several prospective partners simultaneously, and drop off of conversations as more interesting partners are revealed. It's a numbers game. It is not necessarily you. To acquire better social skills, you may want to experiment by corresponding under a false identity for a short time.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago | pl

    Maybe ya'll just didn't click is all.

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  • bubsy
    6 years ago | pl

    Just make sure you're at a healthy weight, and treat your skin and hair well. Women making 'the effort' is fine, but if guys are fading on you, your problem is just your physical appearance.

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