In response to the portion where you said 'The guy has to be nice to me in order to get me'. Assholes usually act nice in the beginning and then as the relationship moves forward their true personality starts to come forth. At least this is the cycle I've seen in my experiences from a 3rd person view.
I don't mean to imply that all extroverts are assholes and all introverts are nice guys, but I seem to see a bit of a correlation between the two. Exceptions do exist of course.
The reason that assholes appear to get more girls is because girls typically aren't the ones who initiate approaches and since many assholes have high amounts of confidence, they have no problem with making a first move. On the flip-side, shy guys typically have a bit less confidence in their social skills and are less likely to approach a girl which means that even if the girl has a preference for shy guys, she probably will never even have a chance to meet him.
It isn't necessarily a matter of preference to the girls, because I'm sure there are girls who are attracted to somewhat shyer men since they are less intimidating. The real matter is the fact that assholes tend to make the approaches without a second thought whereas the nice shyer guys secretly admire the girl from across the room and rarely make a move. So in the end, unless the girl makes a move, the vast majority of the men making moves on them are assholes and as a result their options are primarily composed of those types.
Yeah I understand where you are getting at there but for me, I have to be friends with the guy for awhile before giving him a chance. That means seeing who he really is before giving him a chance. But what am I say I never even had a boyfriend before but thats how I take it.
I have more trust issues now with a past ex guy friend. He was nice at first then he showed the really him when I had lived with him for almost a year, last year. He was my roomie with two other girls.
But right now I have this rather confident nice guy who likes me, and I don't want to give him any signs that I like him more than a friend because who knows he might turn around on me too. But I have a big feeling he won't for some reason, maybe because he really does have learning disabilities just like me and always ask what I would like to do instead of making plans ahead. Who knows though.
Plus like I said before I find shy guys rather cute. That bashful smile always gets me; I can't help but feel tingly inside. :) Although I took that approach before but I ended up getting somewhat hurt. I'll never tell the guy though, he really was nice and you are right on the social skills part. There was something there about him that I couldn't figure out. Maybe he was love-shy or had social anxiety. Who knows.
^ This. Also, if a woman is with someone who thinks he's the best thing since sliced bread, what does that say about the woman he chooses? You have to be pretty damn awesome to be with the king of the universe.
Weird. I find asshole guys want to bang everything in site. They have to look "cool" to their friends, and the best way to do that is to see how many girls they can get. I think younger girls probably think like you and that's why they like the asshole and want to be with him. But in reality, he will be with as many girls as he can, regardless of whether they are attractive, "awesome" or whatever else.
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In response to the portion where you said 'The guy has to be nice to me in order to get me'. Assholes usually act nice in the beginning and then as the relationship moves forward their true personality starts to come forth. At least this is the cycle I've seen in my experiences from a 3rd person view.
I don't mean to imply that all extroverts are assholes and all introverts are nice guys, but I seem to see a bit of a correlation between the two. Exceptions do exist of course.
The reason that assholes appear to get more girls is because girls typically aren't the ones who initiate approaches and since many assholes have high amounts of confidence, they have no problem with making a first move. On the flip-side, shy guys typically have a bit less confidence in their social skills and are less likely to approach a girl which means that even if the girl has a preference for shy guys, she probably will never even have a chance to meet him.
It isn't necessarily a matter of preference to the girls, because I'm sure there are girls who are attracted to somewhat shyer men since they are less intimidating. The real matter is the fact that assholes tend to make the approaches without a second thought whereas the nice shyer guys secretly admire the girl from across the room and rarely make a move. So in the end, unless the girl makes a move, the vast majority of the men making moves on them are assholes and as a result their options are primarily composed of those types.
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Yeah I understand where you are getting at there but for me, I have to be friends with the guy for awhile before giving him a chance. That means seeing who he really is before giving him a chance. But what am I say I never even had a boyfriend before but thats how I take it.
I have more trust issues now with a past ex guy friend. He was nice at first then he showed the really him when I had lived with him for almost a year, last year. He was my roomie with two other girls.
But right now I have this rather confident nice guy who likes me, and I don't want to give him any signs that I like him more than a friend because who knows he might turn around on me too. But I have a big feeling he won't for some reason, maybe because he really does have learning disabilities just like me and always ask what I would like to do instead of making plans ahead. Who knows though.
Plus like I said before I find shy guys rather cute. That bashful smile always gets me; I can't help but feel tingly inside. :) Although I took that approach before but I ended up getting somewhat hurt. I'll never tell the guy though, he really was nice and you are right on the social skills part. There was something there about him that I couldn't figure out. Maybe he was love-shy or had social anxiety. Who knows.
^ This. Also, if a woman is with someone who thinks he's the best thing since sliced bread, what does that say about the woman he chooses? You have to be pretty damn awesome to be with the king of the universe.
It's all part of the cruel joke that is dating :P
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Weird. I find asshole guys want to bang everything in site. They have to look "cool" to their friends, and the best way to do that is to see how many girls they can get. I think younger girls probably think like you and that's why they like the asshole and want to be with him. But in reality, he will be with as many girls as he can, regardless of whether they are attractive, "awesome" or whatever else.
Somebody mentioned me? The king is in the building! :P