This is an old post, but I can't let so many ignorant comments go unaccompanied by a legitimate one!
So, asexuality, like most things, is on a spectrum. On one end you have GREYSEXUALS, who do fluctuate between sometimes experiencing sexual attraction, but not often or may only feel sexual attraction in very specific circumstances. On the other end you have APOTHISEXUALS who are 'sex repulsed. When most people think asexual they generally think of apothisexuals who never experience any form of attraction and are actively repulsed by sex. Most asexuals fall in the middle. This is where you have other subgroups of asexuals, such as Demisexuals, Lithrosexuals, Cupiosexuals, etc.
Now about arousal, or getting 'horney' as the questioner puts it. Yes some asexuals get aroused WHICH IS TOTALLY NORMAL and in no way invalidates their asexuality, but some do not, which is also fine. Asexuality means you have no sexual attraction TOWARDS any being or gender. This is not the same thing as experiencing sexual arousal which is a purely physical thing. You could compare it to teenage boys getting erections at inopportune moments without having being doing or thinking about anything particularly sexual. People get aroused, it happens, regardless if you're trying to or not.
So asexuals can get horney and they can masturbate. Some do not, some do. For some asexuals masturbation is an emotionless act, like brushing one's teeth, or jogging, done merely to expel sexual energy or frustration. For others it involves fantasies or eleven pornography. This may seem very non-ayeual but let me explain. Many asexuals say they do have sexual urges, even sexual fantasies, but that they are not directed at any person/people and that they have no urge to have sex themselves. Asexuals generally talk about their fantasies as being from a. third person point of you, observing the events instead of being directly involved. The individuals performing sexual acts may be characters, vague representations of males or females, celebrities, or even people the asexual knows, though this is rarely the case. The sexual feelings are sort of felt vicariously through these personas who do experience sexual attraction, though at no point does the asexual wish these sexual acts were being to or by them. An odd concept I know, but let me assure you it is true. Asexuals, such as myself, experienced being 'turned-off' by the thought of themselves in sexual scenarios, but other people or characters are fine.
I think there are many misconceptions about asexuality. It doesn't mean a person has no sexual urges, only that they are not directed at anyone. It does not mean a person does not masturbate, only that they have no desire to engage in sexual acts with another person. Not all asexuals are sex-repulsed, and may even have sex out of curiosity or to compare the experience to their own assumptions of what it is like. We have no urge or desire to have sex, doesn't mean we don't have all the parts producing the same hormones in our bodies.
Whelp, one poor asexual being traumatised by the above comments might one day see this and be comforted. suppose that is justification enough for this long-ass comment of a five year old post.
Do asexual's get horney?
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This is an old post, but I can't let so many ignorant comments go unaccompanied by a legitimate one!
So, asexuality, like most things, is on a spectrum. On one end you have GREYSEXUALS, who do fluctuate between sometimes experiencing sexual attraction, but not often or may only feel sexual attraction in very specific circumstances. On the other end you have APOTHISEXUALS who are 'sex repulsed. When most people think asexual they generally think of apothisexuals who never experience any form of attraction and are actively repulsed by sex. Most asexuals fall in the middle. This is where you have other subgroups of asexuals, such as Demisexuals, Lithrosexuals, Cupiosexuals, etc.
Now about arousal, or getting 'horney' as the questioner puts it. Yes some asexuals get aroused WHICH IS TOTALLY NORMAL and in no way invalidates their asexuality, but some do not, which is also fine. Asexuality means you have no sexual attraction TOWARDS any being or gender. This is not the same thing as experiencing sexual arousal which is a purely physical thing. You could compare it to teenage boys getting erections at inopportune moments without having being doing or thinking about anything particularly sexual. People get aroused, it happens, regardless if you're trying to or not.
So asexuals can get horney and they can masturbate. Some do not, some do. For some asexuals masturbation is an emotionless act, like brushing one's teeth, or jogging, done merely to expel sexual energy or frustration. For others it involves fantasies or eleven pornography. This may seem very non-ayeual but let me explain. Many asexuals say they do have sexual urges, even sexual fantasies, but that they are not directed at any person/people and that they have no urge to have sex themselves. Asexuals generally talk about their fantasies as being from a. third person point of you, observing the events instead of being directly involved. The individuals performing sexual acts may be characters, vague representations of males or females, celebrities, or even people the asexual knows, though this is rarely the case. The sexual feelings are sort of felt vicariously through these personas who do experience sexual attraction, though at no point does the asexual wish these sexual acts were being to or by them. An odd concept I know, but let me assure you it is true. Asexuals, such as myself, experienced being 'turned-off' by the thought of themselves in sexual scenarios, but other people or characters are fine.
I think there are many misconceptions about asexuality. It doesn't mean a person has no sexual urges, only that they are not directed at anyone. It does not mean a person does not masturbate, only that they have no desire to engage in sexual acts with another person. Not all asexuals are sex-repulsed, and may even have sex out of curiosity or to compare the experience to their own assumptions of what it is like. We have no urge or desire to have sex, doesn't mean we don't have all the parts producing the same hormones in our bodies.
Whelp, one poor asexual being traumatised by the above comments might one day see this and be comforted. suppose that is justification enough for this long-ass comment of a five year old post.