Difficultity moving on - should i be over this by now?

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Alright, bear with me here for a second. My name is ----, and I'm 19. Here's my issue - nearly a year ago, I was raped by a stranger. I don't want to go into the particulars of it, but it has been almost a year now and I'm still not over it. I don't have an incredibly strong support system. I'm an only child with a single, immigrant mother, and I haven't told her about the incident. I've largely kept this to myself, and friends don't seem to want to hear about it.

I'm a very pragmatic and emotionally stable person, but I find myself frequently plagued by flashbacks and nightmares. Whenever I pass by the place where this took place, I freak out. For a while, I thought I was coping with it fine (after all, it has been almost a year), and then I just sort of snapped one day. Is this normal? Do I still need more time to get over this, or am I being a bit of a drama queen?

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  • mumbum
    13 years ago

    Ollio has given great advice!!

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  • DominiqueG
    13 years ago

    There is no time libe for getting over it. This is a trauma.

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  • blackeye
    14 years ago

    No you are not being a 'drama queen', everyone requires time to heal and move on. You need to confide to your mother, find people who care.Rape is a very traumatic thing to go through and am sorry that you had to go through it. Please seek help
    God bless you!

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  • kanachan
    14 years ago

    Please seek support. talk to your mother and confide to her what happened to you. If you're not comfortable with talking to her about the details, at least tell her that you've been raped and don't want to talk about it with her. Tell her if she would let you see a doctor or someone who you could talk to and help you. I'm so sorry this happened to you, I can almost imagine the trauma this has caused you. The best way is to seek support from someone who could help you. Best of luck sweetie, hope you feel better soon.

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  • supra661
    14 years ago

    I agree with all the above comments. -And I too will pray for your recovery.

    As folks above have noted, definitely contact your local support center(s) and seek out a good therapist if possible.

    Also, you may want to check into a technique called the "Emotional Freedom Technique" (EFT)... It is a very unconventional technique based upon some very ancient principles put into modern medical thinking. Very easy to do, and it is supposed to work extremely well for people dealing with post traumatic stress such as what you are going through. Check out the website on the subject at www.emofree.com. From there, you can download a short book that explains the basic technique.... Go check it out, it may really help you!

    Good luck, and God bless you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    You were traumatized. Check with your family Dr or a rape crisis centre for more support than what your friends can provide.

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  • somethingsomethingme
    14 years ago

    I was a little girl when it happened and didn't realize what was going on. Now that I'm older, and this is 10 years later, I'm still terrified and hurt, and scared.

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  • Chill_Pill
    14 years ago

    I agree with Tommy. So sorry this happened to you sweetie and even more so that you don't know where to turn next. I wish you the best. You are in my thoughts.

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  • tommy81
    14 years ago

    Yes, it's normal and no your not a "drama queen". Your obviously experiencing some kind of post traumatic stress. There are resources available out there to help you deal with what happened to you. You could find a place to contact in like 5 seconds with this website http://centers.rainn.org/

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