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I have this confusion in mind regarding friends. After a point, I seem to not know whether my desire to meet and stay connected with them is a romantic one or based purely on friendship. I am keeping sexual desire out of the question assuming friends with benefits is a setup with sexual attraction and friendship.
I guess it’s romantic if you want to kiss them, call them your boy/girlfriend and fall asleep spooning them. For me that’s where romance starts at least.
It can be hard to tell, society tells us that if we form a strong bond it should be accompanied by romantic attraction, but that’s not always the case. I’ve had people ask if I’m falling for various friends due to the amount of time I spent with them, sometimes including sleeping in the same bed, but it always remained platonic. You can feel safe with someone, tell them private things, have them light up your day and make you laugh harder than anyone else, nap/ sleep next to them and not fancy them at all. Just want your brilliant friendship to stay exactly as it is. Very close platonic friendships are valid.
What if you feel a longing to meet a friend when after hanging out with you for a while they stop hanging out?
That doesn’t sound romantic to me. Longing to see a friend is normal. Why don’t you hang out anymore?
I used to ask her if she wanted to meet most of the times. Then she had her periods a few days back. She was taking her classes but went straight to home after that, the time at which we met. Then the next day I got a bit frustrated and told her 'that I won't ask again to meet.' Then she said I also love spending time with you. Now it is okay since she sent messages and stuff.
But the thing is I do feel like kissing her if I think about it when she is not with me. I also feel a bit isolated in my class. And she is in a different class, a junior.
If I'm physically attracted to someone then I will see it as romantic attraction, but if I'm not then it will never be more than friends.