I think it's pretty normal to feel isolated in college. It's difficult to make solid friends there, despite being surrounded by people. Which makes it worse, because it seems like everyone else has friends, so there must be something wrong with you. And there isn't.
So..a few suggestions: It sounds like maybe you're already a little bit prone to negative thinking. You could try look up CBT, it's basically about questioning your thoughts and getting rid of thoughts that are unhelpful.
You could - and this is easier said than done - just try and focus on your studies for the moment, and learn to be ok for the time being without having that many close friends. Accept that there's nothing wrong with you, it's just a result of the situation, and in time it's almost guaranteed that you'll meet some good people. So for now, don't worry and just stay ahead of your classes.
You could bite the bullet and ask for help. The fact that you think you're too worthless for help already suggests (to me) that things are bad enough to warrant it, maybe. But being that money is always a problem, maybe you should try some other self help options first. Just don't leave it too late to ask for help.
You could take time off. I seriously don't recommend this, from experience. People are right when they say it just makes it hard to get back into it when and IF you return.
Seriously - ride the momentum you're on and continue with school. Unless things are so bad that you can't go to classes, I would try and avoid this option. Plus - taking time off isn't going to help you make any friends. And it may or may not help with healing yourself.
So, try some self-help for now. See if you can find ways to boost your self-esteem, but you have to TRY. You have to want it. Try not to get stuck in a cycle of pessimism.
***Take this all with a grain of salt. I don't know what I'm talking about. Only you can decide what's right for you***
Depressed in college
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I think it's pretty normal to feel isolated in college. It's difficult to make solid friends there, despite being surrounded by people. Which makes it worse, because it seems like everyone else has friends, so there must be something wrong with you. And there isn't.
So..a few suggestions: It sounds like maybe you're already a little bit prone to negative thinking. You could try look up CBT, it's basically about questioning your thoughts and getting rid of thoughts that are unhelpful.
You could - and this is easier said than done - just try and focus on your studies for the moment, and learn to be ok for the time being without having that many close friends. Accept that there's nothing wrong with you, it's just a result of the situation, and in time it's almost guaranteed that you'll meet some good people. So for now, don't worry and just stay ahead of your classes.
You could bite the bullet and ask for help. The fact that you think you're too worthless for help already suggests (to me) that things are bad enough to warrant it, maybe. But being that money is always a problem, maybe you should try some other self help options first. Just don't leave it too late to ask for help.
You could take time off. I seriously don't recommend this, from experience. People are right when they say it just makes it hard to get back into it when and IF you return.
Seriously - ride the momentum you're on and continue with school. Unless things are so bad that you can't go to classes, I would try and avoid this option. Plus - taking time off isn't going to help you make any friends. And it may or may not help with healing yourself.
So, try some self-help for now. See if you can find ways to boost your self-esteem, but you have to TRY. You have to want it. Try not to get stuck in a cycle of pessimism.
***Take this all with a grain of salt. I don't know what I'm talking about. Only you can decide what's right for you***