Though labels can be annoying, it's like the cliffnotes to life; it's just something that's best to get use to rather than fight against it.
As for sexuality, ugh... there's so many nowadays. However, demisexuality is something I can get behind, since I am one myself. The reason why demisexuality is a thing is due to the psychology/science of attraction and typical relationship progression. Most relationships start with lust. Some people like to call it love at first sight, but it's lust. The science behind it is the neurotransmitters that release, giving us a heighten sense of pleasure when around this person, increases the chances of us mating and reproducing (even if it's with the wrong person). This is why Tinder is a thing and so successful. Lust is such a crucial part in our attraction and mating process to the point that sex is the cornerstone to almost every relationship, and can even be the very thing that can break the bond due to receiving too much of or too little.
Along with asexuals, we demisexuals are the odd ducklings, not special, just odd. Both our groups don't release those neurotransmitters when faced with a person many would think is sexually attractive and would immediately pursue due to their appearance, and it's hard for others to understand that. Many of us love having sex, but just don't have those urges to have it with people we barely know and feel nothing for just because they look appealing, which is common sense for us, but not for many others who follow the typical rules of attraction. In my opinion, I think it's more annoying for men, because if they're not visibly lusting over a girl, they're automatically called gay; while demisexual women are seen as hard to get or stubborn/prudish.
At the end of the day, just do what's comfortable for you, and ignore those who say otherwise. Plus, mating for life is natural; wolves do it, certain species of birds do it, and certain humans do it naturally.
Demissexuality is not a sexuality, it's just normal part of a relationship
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You are a regular person, like many of us.
Though labels can be annoying, it's like the cliffnotes to life; it's just something that's best to get use to rather than fight against it.
As for sexuality, ugh... there's so many nowadays. However, demisexuality is something I can get behind, since I am one myself. The reason why demisexuality is a thing is due to the psychology/science of attraction and typical relationship progression. Most relationships start with lust. Some people like to call it love at first sight, but it's lust. The science behind it is the neurotransmitters that release, giving us a heighten sense of pleasure when around this person, increases the chances of us mating and reproducing (even if it's with the wrong person). This is why Tinder is a thing and so successful. Lust is such a crucial part in our attraction and mating process to the point that sex is the cornerstone to almost every relationship, and can even be the very thing that can break the bond due to receiving too much of or too little.
Along with asexuals, we demisexuals are the odd ducklings, not special, just odd. Both our groups don't release those neurotransmitters when faced with a person many would think is sexually attractive and would immediately pursue due to their appearance, and it's hard for others to understand that. Many of us love having sex, but just don't have those urges to have it with people we barely know and feel nothing for just because they look appealing, which is common sense for us, but not for many others who follow the typical rules of attraction. In my opinion, I think it's more annoying for men, because if they're not visibly lusting over a girl, they're automatically called gay; while demisexual women are seen as hard to get or stubborn/prudish.
At the end of the day, just do what's comfortable for you, and ignore those who say otherwise. Plus, mating for life is natural; wolves do it, certain species of birds do it, and certain humans do it naturally.