Dear santa, please make me gay!

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I'm 26, male. Have had many long term relationships, even happened to be breifly (thank god!) married. So it's not a teen curiosity thing.

The issue is, I'm not attracted to females in any other way but the most primitive one -sex. For everything else I prefer a male company. Even my relationships with male friends are much more stable and loyal than any of my romantic ones with girls.

I work with women a lot (fitness specialist), and can be very friendly and professional, so I don't think i am a women hater. But when it comes to dating, and (the worst) living together I just can't do it anymore. Been single for more than a year and not planning to change that anytime soon.

Although I do get lonely and wish I could share my life with a great guy... but I'm just not getting sexually aroused with men (tried).

I'm not asking whether it's normal, just wanna know if anyone else felt the same.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Males nowadays are far more bearable than females, from my observations. I'm not saying all females are just unbearable, I am saying that it's much easier and emotionally fulfilling to fill that "relationship" (friendship) sense with a male than it is with a female.
    I am a heterosexual male, I find females "sexually" appealing, although I just can't imagine living with one, sexually appealing is all that I see appealing by them. The brief times I communicate with them irritates me enough.

    In my experience, males fulfill another man's sense of comfort and loyalty far more than a female can when they are past the caring point of "If I am emotional for a male friend, I am a homosexual" stage.

    I don't know, I just think the majority of females nowadays are unbearable. I wish I didn't, but then again I am only reacting to the acts I have observed and had to deal with, and I don't want to put myself in a situation that would make it a frequent thing to deal with females.

    I wouldn't say it's normal, although I would say it should be. I think more men would be comfortable if we got past this whole "bromance is gay" thing going on, that if you are emotionally attached to another male, yet not sexually attached to them, then it makes you homosexual. I think if we got past that stage, more males will consider male housemates than living with females.
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    Yes, I fully understand that a lot of female users will thumb this down, and that is one of the reasons for me coming to this conclusion, that if someone doesn't find you bearable or perfect, then they are wrong, because you shit out rainbows, puke butterflies, and whatnot, right?

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      Well, I definitely will thumb this up :)

      Thank you for, pretty much, summarizing half of my personal life.

      I have to communicate with people regardless of their gender and orientation, and mostly it goes very well. Again, I'm trying my best not to generalize and say things like "oh, yeah, I can't tolerate chicks". Because I've had nice female roommates and friends before. However, the second it gets beyond the level of casual friendship -I find myself trying to avoid too much contact. I'm that guy who never called the day after. Really, not because I'm a big douche, just because I'd really rather date a dude.
      And that works great, except for the sex life.

      By the way -historically, many societies considered a love between 2 men as sacred and pure. A good example is the japanese feudal times. (yeah, the samurai) Not even mentioning the greeks and romans.

      So either bromance is gay and we all slowly start to doubt our initial orientation, or men are really meant to be with other men, dating women just for reproductional and sexual purposes. I dunno, really.

      And i think this whole thread will be thumbed down to oblivion in a few hours, haha.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I agree with what you said. I feel rather negative for not having much to reply to your reply since you took time to type so much out. Just be assured that it's because I agree with what you said.

        I never knew that about the Japanese feudal times thing, I'm glad you told me about that.

        I hope this doesn't get shot down, I think it's a good post to have on this site.

        Thumbs up for your comment.

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        • throat_cutter
          11 years ago

          Looming eminence...of "ItDuz" and "Impostrurously yours" (kinky porn names by the way) engaging in homosexual sex...

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    • KeddersPrincess
      11 years ago

      After working in a grocery store and dealing with a lot of people. From my analysis, it seems that the easiest people to deal with are men in their thirties.

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    • shade_ilmaendu
      11 years ago

      You need to find a woman who thinks like a man. ;p I know I'm not perfect myself, I hate my bloody hormones sometimes, but I generally have such a hard time even having other female friends. Things get weird or drama happens or they'll start treating everything as competition.. x.x I'm much happier being one of the guys. Guess id call my mentality androgynous. I hate typing on my iPhone. I swear they keep making the keypad less responsive.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Agreed, if I was to have a partner, they would have to have male characteristics.

        Sorry for late response. For some reason, IIN isn't sending all of the notifications.

        I agree with everything you said, and maybe one day I will find a woman like yourself.

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        • shade_ilmaendu
          11 years ago

          Argh, I've been getting that myself, really not sure why. I sometimes get on on my phone so I don't know if that has anything to do with notifications disappearing but doesn't seem like it should.

          And it's hard to find people you really click with, especially for all us weirdos here. ;P You're a relatively "normal" person or whatnot, you're gonna find generic someone or other's all over the place to try on.

          You're one of us freaks, the selection thins out a little. But we shall prevail in the end, or something.

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  • Hamid37USA
    11 years ago

    welcome. i am hamid. in usa there are too many homosapiens. here where i live they are not allowed.
    -hamid

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      homosapiens? are you serious do you even know what that means you are talking of genocide

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    The real problem is that you fear women because you feel that they try to control you and they succeed. The problem is that you're not man enough to have a real realtionship and it's a good idea to continue to hang with only males until you become mature.
    I hope I'm helping

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      I dunno what's real, but I won't dismiss this as an option.

      I also never had any control issues, so maybe.. that part is a little irrelevant too.
      Also, I'm not looking for a "problem solution", since there's no problem, imho.
      I just wonder if that's a common thing, or I'm experiencing something new.

      But.. thanx anyway, I guess.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    "The issue is, I'm not attracted to females in any other way but the most primitive one -sex. For everything else I prefer a male company."

    In other words you're a very straight guy, every super straight guy i know is like this. Most guys prefer to hang out with other guys. Gay men more often prefer the company of women (because they have more in common), the oldschool straight ones usually don't pay any attention to them at all except when trying to get laid.

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      That's what I was thinking for the longest time. Maybe I'm just like the old-school "normal guy" who hates girly stuff.

      The problem is that if I like a guy I'm hanging out with I'll eventually try to take it to the place too far for a "bromance".

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        Well there are always exceptions, only you can really tell. But yeah that does seem odd.

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  • jasonkirk
    9 years ago

    i like womens company not to live in same roof

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  • Fammer3
    10 years ago

    Get a pet.

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  • RomeoDeMontague
    10 years ago

    You know I keep seeing these and its really fucking stupid. These are all obviously trolls. You do realize you have a choice to have sex with anyone you want as long as they are consenting and its within the law right? If you want to be gay go ask out a person of the same sex. Nothing says you can not go to a gay bar and hit on a few gays. Are you really this fucking stupid? God these questions are so fucking stupid. "I want to be gay" are you fucking serious? You could always experiment.

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  • Funkywabit
    11 years ago

    So I have to ask... What do you mean u try to take it to a place too far for bromance? You don't get off on homo sex right? I read somewhere that you tried..

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  • .Adolf_Hitler.
    11 years ago

    Contrary to popular belief, I love gays!
    Gay all the way!

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      Thank you, Adolf! Keep it up and you'll have gay voters on your next elections as a Reichskanzler.

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      • .Adolf_Hitler.
        11 years ago

        Gays love me! I sure hope I get elected!

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  • MiaScarlette.
    11 years ago

    -Shade_ilmaendu
    You explained it better :P

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    so go and have one night stands with women and talk to men

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      Tried. Sounds easy as a plan, but something about women after sex really grosses me out. Especially sluts, but then -who else would do ONS's?

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      • Terence_the_viking
        11 years ago

        have a lobotomy?

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  • slightly_normal_maybe
    11 years ago

    I think that your romantic orientation is homoromantic. However, sexually you're attracted to women. Perhaps splitting up the ideas of romance/affection and sexual attraction can help you understand yourself some more. Lots of articles have been written about the various combos you could be, and maybe you should look a few up.

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      I'll check it out, thanx. The term itself -"homoromantic" is new to me, but I think it describes the whole situation pretty well.

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  • We.Need3.Eugenics
    11 years ago

    Why would you want to be a sodomite?

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      Why not?

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  • 7udv8
    11 years ago

    Well duh, if it wasn't for the sex and cooking thing I'd rather hang with guys where you can talk about intresting stuff and they have a thought process you can follow.

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  • MiaScarlette.
    11 years ago

    Yknow what you should do, you should find a girl who isn't really feminine. Like a bisexual girl that kinddda unsderstands dudes. Thats how i am :P or so I think/: But im so underaged its not even cool. lol. kinda hard to find. But yknow. Bleh.

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  • Crazystupidguy
    11 years ago

    uh...you should be proud you're streight, many gay men would give everything they got to be streight!

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      I dunno, dude. I've worked with proper gay men, and they were so fabulous that I doubt any of them would ever conider the idea of being a hetero.

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  • saduJ18
    11 years ago

    ... That's odd.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Wishing you are something you aren't....pathetic.

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    • Imposturously_yours
      11 years ago

      Danke, Herr Führer. Between myself and my erected middle finger, we found your opinion irrelevant.

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