Daughter dilemma

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I'm an elder daughter to my parents, who have two daughters only... I live in a traditional society where girls go off with their husbands after marrying. My parent's don't have a son. There's no one to take care of them if I marry off. Also, I really want to get married. (Also, my father told my mother to abort all his male children in the womb, he regrets that decision now. But... whatever). What do I do?

Get married. Let your parents think for themselves. 23
Take care of parents and stay unmarried. 1
Find a way to manage both. (if so, how?) 11
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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago | pl

    If your parents decided to abort some of the children based on gender and they also consider that children must look after their parents, then they deserve being alone. Get married and mind your own life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I know... But they're my parents, for better or for worse

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      • [Old Memory]
        5 years ago

        Their status as parents do not exonerate them from their actions and furthermore you should not be their personal carer or slave just because they gave birth to you. You are free to make your own decisions. If you love them, take some care of them, try discussing with them about different options they have, maybe a retirement fund or a plan or so. You might want to discuss to what extent you are happy to help. You cannot spend your life looking after them, it does not make sense. We were born to progress in life, not to look after our parents.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Get married, but check in with your parents often, if possible (depending on where your new home would be).

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      This seems like a really good idea

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    You need to do more research because your statements don’t come anywhere near reality.

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    • TheHolyButter
      5 years ago

      Could you explain this please? I'm open to ideas.

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  • jethro
    5 years ago

    You are so full of crap your eyes are brown.

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    • [Old Memory]
      5 years ago

      This. There, I explained it.

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      • TheHolyButter
        5 years ago

        Are you seconding jethro's comment? If so, I don't think you have much to offer as advice.

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      • TheHolyButter
        5 years ago

        I still don't get it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    You sound like a troll all this crap about your brothers being aborted. You should stay unmarried because no man should be forced to put up with you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      I think I'll let the man in my life decide if he's being 'forced' to put up with me. That wasn't even my question.

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  • Kirbo
    5 years ago

    My vote is to manage both. How? Get your younger sibling to do her part in taking care of your parents too, she is after all still a daughter of her parents.

    I myself is also from a traditional family. While my parents are still able to support themselves, I have witnessed how my parents and uncles/aunts handled taking care of my grandparents. Everyone took turns in taking my grandparents into their homes. And when they had to get hospitalised, everyone chipped in for the bill.

    Edit: Also, I heavily support that you focus on your own life. While they are your parents, you are still your own person and have your own life to live.

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  • SweetTouch
    5 years ago

    You are forced to make a very hard decision in your life. Just relax your mind and slowly think about it. I know it very hard for you and I'm very very sorry for you. Life is full of challenge but you should strong facing it. Don't do anything wrong such as taking drug or alcohol. Try solving your problem bit by bit. You can do it! I believe in you!

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    • TheHolyButter
      5 years ago

      Thanks.

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      • SweetTouch
        5 years ago

        Wc

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    So your parents aborted your brothers? That's really quite sad.

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