Except men are happy to date 90% of women. Women are looking for only the top 10% of men. The difference is that if she can't get a date with a top guy like that (a Chad) she will just stay home and sleep with her pet cat. She doesn't want to be bothered. The cat is acceptable.
Because female perception varies a bit, actually only the top 25% of men will end up with partners.
Dubious numbers aside, it’s baffling to me that men who think like this will find a way to justify blaming women instead of self reflecting and asking themselves why a woman would rather be with a cat than them, and trying to figure out how to change that.
Firstly, women are free to choose, free to say no, and free to sleep with whatever cat they like. You cannot blame a woman for having preferences anymore than you can blame a man for his preferences.
Secondly, most men (like me) have varied their style, their appearance, and their demeanor to find which factors make a difference. Humans are complicated animals. Somethings will work on some women and not on others. But, one thing is ultra important - appearance. When you have misaligned teeth, facial scars, and an asymmetric face, you get no responses from any woman.
Let's try an experiment, shall we? If I told you that these three guys had high net worth, were extremely empathetic, and good natured, would you respond to their profiles?
https://ibb.co/5r4s1dj
Remember, these are real people with real needs, and real sensibilities. Please do not judge them in a cruel way.
Well, as a straight man, no, I wouldn’t respond to them or any other guy, and I imagine they wouldn’t want me to. But I will say that I’d rather decide for myself if somebody seems empathetic and good natured to me than take someone else’s word for it.
Other than that, I’m not really sure what you think the difference is between men and women here. If you think appearance matters more to women than it does men, or that a woman is going to get any more responses from men than a man with a similar quality of appearance is from women, we’re just going to have to agree to disagree.
"I’m not really sure what you think the difference is between men and women here."
In on-line dating, men are generally expected to make the first move.
"... or that a woman is going to get any more responses from men than a man with a similar quality of appearance is from women."
Female response is far more concentrated on the most attractive men, while male response is more evenly distributed.
The most popular dating app among women is the dating app that only allows women to make the first move.
Like I said, we’re going to have to agree to disagree. We are living in two completely different realities if you think male response is more evenly distributed than women.
That's https://bumble.com/ . The idea that only women can make the first move does make a lot of sense; it puts more efficiency into the process. But, your idea of equal distributions is indeed a different reality. It's also a hypothesis that can be tested by comparing the men's and women's distributions using a chi-square contingency table analysis. Statistics separates reality from delusion.
Dating sucks for men, while women just pick and choose
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Except men are happy to date 90% of women. Women are looking for only the top 10% of men. The difference is that if she can't get a date with a top guy like that (a Chad) she will just stay home and sleep with her pet cat. She doesn't want to be bothered. The cat is acceptable.
Because female perception varies a bit, actually only the top 25% of men will end up with partners.
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Dubious numbers aside, it’s baffling to me that men who think like this will find a way to justify blaming women instead of self reflecting and asking themselves why a woman would rather be with a cat than them, and trying to figure out how to change that.
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Firstly, women are free to choose, free to say no, and free to sleep with whatever cat they like. You cannot blame a woman for having preferences anymore than you can blame a man for his preferences.
Secondly, most men (like me) have varied their style, their appearance, and their demeanor to find which factors make a difference. Humans are complicated animals. Somethings will work on some women and not on others. But, one thing is ultra important - appearance. When you have misaligned teeth, facial scars, and an asymmetric face, you get no responses from any woman.
Let's try an experiment, shall we? If I told you that these three guys had high net worth, were extremely empathetic, and good natured, would you respond to their profiles?
https://ibb.co/5r4s1dj
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Well, as a straight man, no, I wouldn’t respond to them or any other guy, and I imagine they wouldn’t want me to. But I will say that I’d rather decide for myself if somebody seems empathetic and good natured to me than take someone else’s word for it.
Other than that, I’m not really sure what you think the difference is between men and women here. If you think appearance matters more to women than it does men, or that a woman is going to get any more responses from men than a man with a similar quality of appearance is from women, we’re just going to have to agree to disagree.
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"I’m not really sure what you think the difference is between men and women here."
In on-line dating, men are generally expected to make the first move.
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The most popular dating app among women is the dating app that only allows women to make the first move.
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That's https://bumble.com/ . The idea that only women can make the first move does make a lot of sense; it puts more efficiency into the process. But, your idea of equal distributions is indeed a different reality. It's also a hypothesis that can be tested by comparing the men's and women's distributions using a chi-square contingency table analysis. Statistics separates reality from delusion.