Have you considered the possibility that the impression you make on women could be negatively affected by your opinion that women are only really looking financial stability?
If you see your main selling point as being your financial success and career prospects, that might be leading you to push those points too hard. No sensible woman would choose to live in a cardboard box under a bridge just for lurve, but few women would be willing to admit - to others and to themselves - that the only thing they actually like about a guy is his money. There are a few names for women like that, and none of them are generally considered flattering.
Another possibility that occurs to me is that the reason you're doing so well financially is that you might be a classic Type A personality: someone who operates at a rapid pace, is impatient, competitive, gets upset easily and equates self-worth with concrete achievements (often measured in terms of money). Such people are often so focused on achieving dominance in their chosen field of work that they have no real emotional depth, and few interests outside of their work.
If women get the clear impression that your total identity is wrapped up in your work and how many possessions you have, why the hell should they find you fascinating or even slightly interesting as a person? You're just another suit with an apartment, car, and healthy bank balance. Why should they feel that life with you could be emotionally fulfilling for them? Why should they believe that there's room for them in your life?
I understand your point mate, and I completely agree with you.
There is however a misunderstanding here and I’ll try to clear it up.
I understand that true love is when you form a bond with someone. That bond is irreplaceable by any material things. Finding someone I can bond with is what I and everyone else seek.
What I tried to get across by saying that I am far ahead of the curve in terms of career is that what I lack in looks, I make up in other areas, as going for looks alone is equally shallow as going for money alone.
I didn’t mean in any way or form that career is my main selling point. It is just something I pointed out for the people shallow enough to base everything on looks as the “out of your league” discussion came up.
I believe that no one is out of anyone’s league as it is the inside that counts. I firmly don’t believe that league is based on looks either.
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Have you considered the possibility that the impression you make on women could be negatively affected by your opinion that women are only really looking financial stability?
If you see your main selling point as being your financial success and career prospects, that might be leading you to push those points too hard. No sensible woman would choose to live in a cardboard box under a bridge just for lurve, but few women would be willing to admit - to others and to themselves - that the only thing they actually like about a guy is his money. There are a few names for women like that, and none of them are generally considered flattering.
Another possibility that occurs to me is that the reason you're doing so well financially is that you might be a classic Type A personality: someone who operates at a rapid pace, is impatient, competitive, gets upset easily and equates self-worth with concrete achievements (often measured in terms of money). Such people are often so focused on achieving dominance in their chosen field of work that they have no real emotional depth, and few interests outside of their work.
If women get the clear impression that your total identity is wrapped up in your work and how many possessions you have, why the hell should they find you fascinating or even slightly interesting as a person? You're just another suit with an apartment, car, and healthy bank balance. Why should they feel that life with you could be emotionally fulfilling for them? Why should they believe that there's room for them in your life?
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I understand your point mate, and I completely agree with you.
There is however a misunderstanding here and I’ll try to clear it up.
I understand that true love is when you form a bond with someone. That bond is irreplaceable by any material things. Finding someone I can bond with is what I and everyone else seek.
What I tried to get across by saying that I am far ahead of the curve in terms of career is that what I lack in looks, I make up in other areas, as going for looks alone is equally shallow as going for money alone.
I didn’t mean in any way or form that career is my main selling point. It is just something I pointed out for the people shallow enough to base everything on looks as the “out of your league” discussion came up.
I believe that no one is out of anyone’s league as it is the inside that counts. I firmly don’t believe that league is based on looks either.