Dating my best friend?

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It's been a bit weird, but A while ago i asked out this girl i really wanted to know, BIG MISTAKE... Realized you should really be friends first. Anyway, she said no in ways because either she had a different love at the time, or she just didn't know me that well. We are VERY good friends now, but she has a boyfriend. But often she even talks to me a LOT more that she does to her boyfriend. And whenever they have problems she goes running into my arms first for questions... I was thinking of if they ever break up, then i could have a chance again... But then again I love her like nothing else. So i'm wondering, should i be going out now, or stay best friends and see how that goes?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago | pl

    Be honest about how you feel. She knows it already - but b being straight about things, you're setting the tone for what she can expect from you. Honesty. That;'s friendship. And a good base for romance.

    Also, ask her for a date. If the current bf is that shakey she needn't treat it as an exclusive relationship. She can see other guys & circulate.

    Young people seem confused about the gf/bf thing: you are not married. You have the option to be exclusive to one another, yes, but you also have the option to date.

    You are not married. So just be clear & honest about it.

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  • leahquestions
    13 years ago | pl

    ask her how she feels about you- she might really like your soul and looks up to you as a brother but not a lover-- in that case you need to move on and keep her as a friend...but it's nice to know there's guys out there like you

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  • knexgunner
    13 years ago | pl

    i know how you feel, man. i never asked out my friend because if it ended, then the friendship would too. i mght just be a little paranoid or a little too overcautious though. just do what you think is right

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