Cutting my long beard hurt things socially

I had a long beard. I made a hasty decision to cut it, thinking that it would make me look neater and better. I'm realizing too late that I think I was very wrong. I swear to God, people were treating me with more respect and taking me more seriously when I had the long beard. I notice, and a friend of mine also, notice how it's harder for me to get people's attention positively now than before, and more people are now putting up that invisible wall again that they were putting up a several months ago before growing the beard. By invisible wall, I mean like this blockage from wanting to even make the slightest small talk. This wasn't happening before I cut it. Tell me, I'm sure I'm not wrong, a man with a long beard seems to make him look a bit more mature, gets him taken more seriously, and helps him get more positive attention from people than a man with almost no beard, doesn't it?

Also, this may not be the case with everyone, it depends on their particular face structure. With some people's faces, including mine, a long beard can help hide certain things about their face structure that hurts their attractiveness. I think with me, it may be a combination of that and that a long beard makes a guy look more mature and taken more seriously.

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  • Ummitsme

    You shouldn't let physical characteristics define you. If people you consider friends change the way they treat you if you change your appearance that is bull shit and they're not your friends. Imagine if you were fat joe and lost a bunch of weight or wheel chair Jimmy and had spinal surgery and were skinny or able to walk respectively. Anyone worth a shit loves you who you are regardless of what's on the outside. Don't let superficial shit define you; educate or ditch superficial friends.

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    • I agree with you totally. Unfortunately, there are alot of superficial, judgemental people around, so I'm not sure how long it will take to start befriending nicer, less shallow people. I'm looking through

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  • S12207

    Do you feel insecure since you cut the beard? I know people can smell insecurity, maybe that's what's going on.

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    • No, it's not my misconception, people were seriously treating me better before I cut the beard, I swear it, it's not my imagination.

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      • S12207

        I believe you, but what I'm wondering is if you felt insecure with your new look. I believe its about the energy you're putting out there. It has nothing to do with an authoritative look, or looking older, it's your energy about your look that inherently causes a reaction from people.

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        • I see what you mean. When I appear insecure, people won't react as nicely. I don't know, maybe that's it. I'd thought that plenty of people judge on looks alone though, that's what I'm always reading, about how shallow some people are. I've also overheard people's conversations, not about me, but I've heard the way people really cut others down just for how they look. I'm sure there's also some truth though to me giving off low self esteem vibes to others

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          • S12207

            Ya people can be pretty nasty sometimes. It could be your new look makes them feel insecure too causing them to act shitty towards you, Im not there to see.

            I found this article, it touches on what I'm talking about.
            https://www.nicknotas.com/blog/insecurity-turning-people-off/

            Just do what makes you happy and screw the rest 😉

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            • I checked it out, it's very helpful. Thanks😊

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  • RoseIsabella

    Honestly, I don't like long beards.

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  • paramore93

    Throughout history long beards were thought of as a sign of wisdom and masculinity.
    A lot of people with beards in western society are just branded as hipsters nowadays but fuck society, grow it back.

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    • I think that the long beard hid something that makes my face look bad.

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  • Whatintarnation

    Interesting. Don't really know anyone with a long beard but I suppose people are used to seeing you one way and it kinda throws them when they see your normal appearance has changed. I can't say that beard length has a determining factor for me. I do think the Duck Dynasty guys do look kinda silly with theirs.

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  • Checkmate_King

    Sounds like these asshole friends weren't really your friends, were they? Sheehs dude put on your big girl panties and wise up. JUST REGROW THE FREAKIN' BEARD

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    • What asshole friends? I'm just talking about how people treat me wherever I go. Instead of telling me to grow up and regrow the beard, which will take another few months, you think you could maybe answer the question that I was trying to ask in my post, is it true that more people will look at you as more mature and take you more seriously with the longer beard vs almost no beard (very light stubble)?

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      • e51pegasi

        How old are you?

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        • 31

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