That's freaky. I think you need to be more assertive with your family, truly tell them how BAD you feel. Throwing up is a terrible sign; if that doesn't get the message across, fuck knows what will. Try talking to your friends about it too, if your family's ignorant there may be at least one friend who could understand. I find confiding in someone really takes a bit of the load off, so talk to everyone close about it if you can.
Also, like shortandtothepoint said, definitely carry pepper spray. Mace too, if it's allowed. Any sort of weaponry that will help you feel safer.
I forgot. On the religion thing, she told me that I could always lie about my religion o try to throw him off. The truth of the matter is that I am an atheist, but I am not completely out about that. I have also thought about telling him that I am in love with someone else and that I am okay with waiting for this person for however long is necessary. This is actually true. I have even considered lying and saying that I am already dating a man. However, in regards to all of these possibilities, it concerns me that he may be the type of person who likes to check up on facts behind a person's back. I don't want to get in anymore trouble with my family.
The only other person I have told in length about the situation is my therapist. She told me to firmly say "No, Thank you." Until he stops. If he still doesn't she said that I can make a complaint to him to the store's management. She says that I have a lot of power in the situation since I am a customer. Stores thrive and can fail by their customers. If it effects their customer's they'll want to do something about it. The thing is is that their management/business ethic seems to be a little flawed. It's hard to get a hold of the people in charge that I like at the store. They also don't seem to have a email for complaints. She doubts that this guy will be able to rape me in that store, but she did say that I could try staying close to the relative who accompanies me there.
I've always been androgynous, but never all of the way. I don't wear purses. I have been thinking about completely switching my clothing to the men's aisle. Hopefully, that will deter him? I am not even sure if there are extreme security measure at that store, like security cameras.
I haven't seen him for about 4 times now, but it places me at an even more awkward situation. I was hoping that he had been fired or gotten sick. If it turns out that he's only working on certain days, if I ask and they tell him and he finds out it was me, he might be even more convinced about the chance of love. O_O The store has a tendency to randomly transfer employees so, there's always going to be the anxiety of: What if I see this guy again?
Creepy man is making me physically ill, IIN?
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That's freaky. I think you need to be more assertive with your family, truly tell them how BAD you feel. Throwing up is a terrible sign; if that doesn't get the message across, fuck knows what will. Try talking to your friends about it too, if your family's ignorant there may be at least one friend who could understand. I find confiding in someone really takes a bit of the load off, so talk to everyone close about it if you can.
Also, like shortandtothepoint said, definitely carry pepper spray. Mace too, if it's allowed. Any sort of weaponry that will help you feel safer.
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I forgot. On the religion thing, she told me that I could always lie about my religion o try to throw him off. The truth of the matter is that I am an atheist, but I am not completely out about that. I have also thought about telling him that I am in love with someone else and that I am okay with waiting for this person for however long is necessary. This is actually true. I have even considered lying and saying that I am already dating a man. However, in regards to all of these possibilities, it concerns me that he may be the type of person who likes to check up on facts behind a person's back. I don't want to get in anymore trouble with my family.
The only other person I have told in length about the situation is my therapist. She told me to firmly say "No, Thank you." Until he stops. If he still doesn't she said that I can make a complaint to him to the store's management. She says that I have a lot of power in the situation since I am a customer. Stores thrive and can fail by their customers. If it effects their customer's they'll want to do something about it. The thing is is that their management/business ethic seems to be a little flawed. It's hard to get a hold of the people in charge that I like at the store. They also don't seem to have a email for complaints. She doubts that this guy will be able to rape me in that store, but she did say that I could try staying close to the relative who accompanies me there.
I've always been androgynous, but never all of the way. I don't wear purses. I have been thinking about completely switching my clothing to the men's aisle. Hopefully, that will deter him? I am not even sure if there are extreme security measure at that store, like security cameras.
I haven't seen him for about 4 times now, but it places me at an even more awkward situation. I was hoping that he had been fired or gotten sick. If it turns out that he's only working on certain days, if I ask and they tell him and he finds out it was me, he might be even more convinced about the chance of love. O_O The store has a tendency to randomly transfer employees so, there's always going to be the anxiety of: What if I see this guy again?