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If you and your partner decided to sleep with other people, could you get back sucessfully with them? Or would you always be wondering about the other people your partner slept with?
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| No | 83 |
It's not really infidelity if you've both 'decided to sleep with other people'.
If you're broken up then it's really none of your business but if you are talking about cheating then fuck that.
I think I'd be paranoid for a while until they proved they wouldn't do it again.
I probably would give them another shot though but they'd have to win me over again and I'd have to make sure it was a mistake, I mean everyone makes mistakes and everyone is worth a second chance specially if you love the person.
It can be hard just to stop loving someone, even if they did something terrible.
My first ex husband cheated on me with a woman from his work. Maybe I didn't immediately stop loving him completely, but I was certainly too angry to ever take him back or see or be around him anymore. Now I can probably say that I have somewhat forgiven him but forgiveness of a person does not necessarily have to equal reconciliation with said person.
Why would I agree to sleep with other people if I already had a partner? And, why would I want to continue on with someone who wanted to sleep with others? That's not how I roll!
I was gonna say it would depend on the situation, based on the title. Having read the text, though...I would never agree to that arrangement in the first place. I have no desire to be with anyone other than my bf and I'm not willing to share him.
Nope, call me paranoid but I find it hard to trust someone so if they cheat on me that's it, we're done
Probably not, although I've never been in that situation before so I don't know what I'd do. I wouldn't sacrifice the benefits of being single unless it was for an extremely good relationship, and I don't know if a relationship with a cheating partner could ever be extremely good.
There was a story on This American Life not too long ago about a couple in this kind of situation. They were together in a long-term relationship for like ten years and were talking about getting married. They decided that before getting married, they would take a break for a month or so and experiment with sleeping with as many other people as possible. Because they had been together for so long, they didn't want to get married with the regret of not experiencing what it would be like to have sex with other people.
In the end it destroyed their relationship and they never did come back after the break.
I've never been in this kind of situation before, but it was an interesting perspective to reflect on.
If everything was out in the open and no lies were involved, I couldn't care less. In that case, there would be no loss of trust, the most important thing in a relationship. In all actuality, it would be a much more intelligent way to insure a long lasting relationship, if both parties hadn't had sex with any other people.
Two virgins is a recipe for a disastrous relationship.
Cheating is the one absolute deal breaker on which I could never busge. Once the trust is gone, its gone forever.
I have NEVER been in a closed relationship so ya I could. I could never be in a relationship where I couldn't sleep with other people. you people are Freaks.
How do you do it? I wish I could. I really enjoy the connection I get with someone when we are just for each other, BUT there is always someone more attrctive, interesting, wealthier ect. So then problems arise because of jealousy, and the need for variety.
I have thought about swapping partners, but it is hard to have one night romances with someone you are really not attracted to physically or emotionally. And just going out looking for someone for the night is difficult. He probably would get all the sex anyway and I would not have any interest because I am shy. He is a flirt.
Tell me the secret.
It depands on the situation. I would probably take him back. If you are open and honest, then you should be understanding of each other. Was the infidelity emotional or physical?