Completely different person

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my husband is a completely different person when he doesn't smoke marijuana. he stopped smoking on sunday and it's now friday and all he's done is ignore me and complain about literally everything. he leaves for work says bye to our kids and completely avoids me and he gets home and just walks right past me. it's been breaking my heart because i've done nothing wrong and he's treating me as if i did. when he does smoke weed we have a completely different relationship and i'm just missing him a lot.

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    It's not normal for him to basically ignore you, that's for sure. He needs to get his shit together.

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  • INSANE710
    6 years ago

    Stop making it about his weed! You clearly did something, your husband wouldn't just ignore you for no reason! Tell us what you did? Or maybe he likes his life with you better when he's High.

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  • ringspirit
    6 years ago

    Did you know him before he started smoking? I had a roommate who was a very cool and nice guy, but was always stoned. A few years later, my wife and I met him again and he had been straight for a year. Turned out he was a total dickhead. Drugs don't always show a person's true nature. Do you want to live with the straight husband? If not, the answer may not be keeping him stoned....

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  • jassy12345
    6 years ago

    he's seriously being so mean. he woke me up at 2 in the morning complaining about his drill and called me all these horrible names because he was upset that i used it but before he stopped smoking it was literally just laying on the garage floor.

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  • jassy12345
    6 years ago

    i wonder if when he's going through this withdrawal and he's saying these hurtful and mean things is this really how he really feels or if he's just treating me this way because he's going through this withdrawal

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    I said normal, but of course not alright. Drugs change people. He may be dependent on the weed to relax.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Seeing as it has been a mere 5 days how can you attribute this to him not being high? He is clearly going through withdrawal from a habit, and its chemical effects on his brain and behavior as well as perhaps some emotions he has treated with pot and now must find other ways.
    He needs far more time before you can judge his sober character truthfully

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  • jassy12345
    6 years ago

    he stopped because he said he wants to quit. he usually smokes everyday and he usually just sits on his laptop before work and that's all his day consists of because he gets home from work late. we've even had conversations about him quitting and i've told him that i didn't want him to because of how grumpy he gets when he doesn't. he'll have these moments where he just quits randomly and will start up again. it just sucks because I don't even go near him when he's home because he's not a fun person to be around right now. he's definitely going through a withdrawal.

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    • e51pegasi
      6 years ago

      If he's serious about quitting I'd give him all the support you can.

      After the rain comes the sun.

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      • jassy12345
        6 years ago

        i agree but how do i support him when he doesn't want anything to do with me now? like he won't even look at me.

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        • e51pegasi
          6 years ago

          Ask him how he is feeling & tell him how you feel. Ask if there is anything you can do for him. Maybe he just needs space, his head will probably be battered. Write your feelings down on paper if he is that uncommunicative. Tell him that you are there for him if he wants you.

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          • jassy12345
            6 years ago

            thanks for the advice!

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  • e51pegasi
    6 years ago

    Why has he stopped smoking weed?

    There are various reasons he could be the way he is. From what you have posted there it seems like he resents you for stopping for whatever reason. People are often behave the worst with the person closest to them. Try not to take it personally.

    If he's complaining about everything & being moody, that sounds like withdrawal.

    If he's receptive talk to him & ask him how he feels, thankfully the withdrawal symptoms are just psychological & he should be over the worst very soon.

    Stick in there. :-)

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  • SmokeEverything
    6 years ago

    Why quit weed? It's the least harmful thing for you. If you stop smoking heavily and regularly it makes you irritable.

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    • jassy12345
      6 years ago

      i agree. i have no problem with him smoking weed and he knows that. he just decided he wanted to quit now i'm the one putting up with his bs just because. he's already done this several times throughout all the years we've been together and i already know what to expect when he stops and it just sucks

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      • SmokeEverything
        6 years ago

        tell him he needs the damn weed. you can't just go off your self-medication like that. There's zero reason not to smoke weed, especially if you need it not to be a dick. many nice people have this same problem.

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