Coming out to my best friend

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Ok so I am bi and I want to tell my best friend. I Have hinted it for some time now and have even told him that I have something really secret to tell him. I told him that next time we are alone together for more than a few minutes I will tell him. Honestly, for the past couple years, I also have a pretty strong suspicion that he might be interested in me (mostly because of things he says to me, he usually acts different when we are alone together, he has told me very personal things, he looks at me A LOT when I'm driving at night and we're alone together, he has gotten touchy with me more times than I can remember.) Also, often when he looks at me he just smiles and lets out a little laugh, but he will never tell me what he's thinking about. I'm also wondering if he might have a suspicion about me, because I have hinted it quite a bit over the last couple years. (I told him things like "I'm open to try anything once, etc") I have been putting this off for about 6 months and he keeps bringing up me telling him something almost every time I see him when we are alone. I just want some input on this before I actually do anything. He knows he is like my brother and he also knows that I want to tell him something that nobody else knows. I know he won't say anything to anyone. What do you guys think, should I tell him, and do you think he might have a clue what I'm gonna tell him? Thanks.

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  • unseriousness
    6 years ago

    I think you should tell him. Unless he's homophobic... You guys seem to have a really good relationship, telling him that you're bi shouldn't change anything. Since you're so close, you should have a good idea of how he'll react as well.

    As for whether or not he has a clue of what you're gonna tell him, I'm sure it's slipped through his mind before. The problem is whether or not he is actually interested in you or if you've just been over thinking your friendship. Either way, good luck! Tell me how it turns out.

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    • imgood124
      6 years ago

      Thanks for the reply! I'll tell him next time we are alone together long enough. He doesn't seem homophobic at all, he will occasionally call things gay but in reality he doesn't mean in in a vindictive way.

      About a week ago, I was taking him home and we were literally 2 minutes away from his house and he started guessing what it could be. I told him if he gets it 100 percent right I'll say yes. He said gay but he was a bit off so I said no, but I did delay a bit.

      I don't think that I'm overthinking my friendship, especially because a few of my other friends say that they can see him being bi. He does talk about girls but when he has a chance to get with someone he doesn't. He claims he's too lazy so that combined with many other things make me believe he's hiding something, and based on how different he usually is when he's alone with me make me believe it is possible he likes me. I won't pursue anything with him unless something actually happens, but I won't push anything out of respect to him and myself. Anyway I'll keep you posted.

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      • unseriousness
        6 years ago

        Seems like you have a good chance with him. I'll be rooting for you! I look forward to an update.

        I've noticed you haven't actually outright said you liked him.

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        • imgood124
          6 years ago

          I told him last night and he was glad I could trust him enough to tell him. He said that it must have taken a lot of work to do it and he's perfect;y fine with it. As far as liking him goes I'll just have to see what happens. If something is meant to be then it will happen on its own.

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          • rayb12
            6 years ago

            Proud of u

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            • imgood124
              6 years ago

              Honestly I feel really weird (almost like it was a dream) now but I figure that will go away with time.

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