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Is it normal for a christian girl to just be obsessed with sex and do it a lot without ever being married? My christian friends tell me that I shouldn't be doing it and I should keep my body pure (I think it might be a little late for that) but I can't stop. And it's not like I'm having sex with anyone other than my boyfriend. Is it normal for a christian girl to be like this?
im having a spiritual crisis right now but in the end i think i believe what the bible which is wait til marriage but no one has the right to force their religious beliefs down your throat.
No, it's really not. If you claim you're a Christian but you let your panties drop quicker than a bomb from Russia, then you're clearly not a Christian. You need to re-evaluate your relationship with Christ and realize that all these people telling you it's normal and okay are WRONG. If you're a true Christian, you would know that the Bible says sex outside of marriage is wrong and God forbids it. I know I sound like a hardcore Bible freak, but honey, it's the truth.
Comparing panties to a 'bomb from russia?' Easy tiger, I think that you might be the one in need of a smidgen of re-evaluation. No, I insist. My, one mustn't be so tasteless!
My opinion is that it's a totally out of date rule. Remember, they didn't have contraception back then. Saying 'don't do it cos God says so' was the only way of keeping the raging human libido under wraps and ensuring that people wouln't go forth and multiply like bunnies.
So don't worry, your totally normal. Your friends must be going through some major sexual frustration.
You know that Christians only have sex to make babies right? and so since the man believed that women was just vaginas for that purpose
Please give me a break
"You know that Christians only have sex to make babies right?"
Wow, just when I thought I've read the stupidest comment, I come across another one. Honestly, stop acting like you know what you're talking about. You're only making yourself look bad by spouting stereotypes like this.
People who call themselves Christians always make me lol. If that dude named jesus was the son of god, (I don't believe in organized religion) came back today, he sure as hell would not want 99% of those people near him, they missed the message, to "love thy neighbor" and not "be hateful to anyone not like you." J.C. and the crew -
Have some compassion. The girl is clearly traumatized.She enjoys sex. Possibly believes it is wrong in her context, yet she loves her bf. I can fully understand. I believe I am a Christian, but I do things that are not Christian. It's not impulse, or excuse. Christians believe that they are saved by grace. Jesus knows that achieving the perfection or being a Christian is nigh on impossible. Is the sole reason that if you believe and have Christ in your heart, (and god knows you inwardly), then you are saved by grace.
Everyones view on sex is different, whether you are a Christian or not. I am a Christian and my views on pre-marital sex differs with some of my other Christian friends. In the end it doesn't really matter what your friends think of you. If you are a Christian it is simply a matter of your own personal walk with Christ and how you feel having sex before marriage is affecting that. Read your scriptures, particularly Leviticus and the beatitudes in Matthew and make your own conclusions. Its your own life and your own walk, you make the choice.
I think people should have sex before getting married because what if you get married to someone who sucks? I mean, sure you can learn stuff and get better but I mean... you'll never know if someone out there could do you really REALLY well... 0:)
It's a little hypocritical to call yourself "Christian", while at the same time disobeying the word of God. The Scriptures read, "Women, do not have sex with a man who is not your husband. Men, do not have sex with a woman who is not your wife." If you don't want to follow the Scriptures, then you might as well stop calling yourself a Christian. I mean, it's your life, and if you don't want to live it a certain way, then you should at least stop pretending.
Don't listen to your friends. They are not you. YOU should make your own decisions. Not your friends.
Its normal. They've made their choices, you've made yours. One is no more or less Christian than the other. That's just churchy propaganda. I wouldn't talk to them further about this. Not that they would burn you at the stake. Just I doubt you will get any helpful, unbiased and NORMAL advice
Protecting your body & being healthy is important e.g. birth control & STDs and being in a safe relationship. Good idea to speak with a health professional, like a public health nurse, or family doctor. Become educated in a broader sense - you are ready and need to.
Think about it.
Who created everything, God, right?
then whatever happens in nature is God's work as well, right?
is sex natural? yes, absolutely.
without sex you couldn't have been born.
it is absolutely normal for you to have sex.
However, here comes the problem.
in christianity, you shouldn't be having sex with someone that is not committed to you.
this means your husband.
you can have sex as many as you want, but you should have sex with right one, and after marriage.
so if you are a faithful christian, and want to do what God wants us to do, and if you are not gonna marry your bf.... then unfortunately
what you are doing is wrong.
but we are not taking about right or wrong here, we are talking about normal or abnormal.
so you are normal, we were created to have sex, it is normal for you to feel to have sex and have sex.
Is it just me? Or you really are contradicting yousrself? .. If you're talking about Obeying God and following our religion.. Then Right or Wrong is Normal and Abnormal.. Cause normally we do follow our religion and the rules as God set it.. and what is abnormal and contradicting.. if we do believe in God and are not convinced with his rules..
@ Publisher .. You know what..God set Rules for A Good Reason... and not just to ruin our happiness.. God forbids having Sex before marriage because God wants to keep you safe and protect you .. However, if you still want to do it .. God wouldn't be bothered.. cause it is you who's going to face troubles and Suffer from the CONSEQUENCES, either in life or death. And one more thing.. God is the only one in your life who would give you advice and is not benefiting from it.. If your posting your stories on here and people keep giving you advice.. You can't really trust them.. do you? And even though if you do.. you got a brain to judge their opinions. So pick what makes sense to you ...
I salute your friends for warning you though.. they seem good people for wanting to save you.
Sex is nature and evolutionary necessity, Religion is all man made so fuck em, but they might like that...so don't.
Girl fuck christianity, sex is a natural thing, everyone does it, you need it, it is a human need. Religion is not a human need, you can live without it. Sex is healthy (unless you dont use condoms and get STDs). Dont listen to your dumb friends, they either dont have a life or are fucking hypocrites.
Being a Christian means you believe in god and Jesus with all your heart. You can be a druggie or an alcoholic or have sex with every one and still be a Christian. It's normal believe me. However!!!!..... To be a Christian god does want is to represent him so doing this isn't "Christian like" but you are only human. It's a phase. Your horny! Plain and simple. You are just a person. You are a person who is a Christian. You are a christian person who struggles with not having sex because you love doing it.
first time sex was 15 years old, by the time I was 17 I had slept with over 24 men I got hooked with sex,I was raised with Christian beliefs so I considered myself Christian although it wasn't until I got baptised at 19 years that made me Christian. Now that I had asked Christ to be my lord it wasn't long after that till having another fling, thing is it wasn't as easy as before because once you give your life to God he starts messing with you, i'm 26 now and have 4 beautiful kids but i'm raising them alone and their dad doesn't see them, I choose sex over my life, I haven't had sex for almost two years im not fat an ugly from having kids i can still real them i'm if I want but God has changed my life dramatically and i'm not struggling people don't no how I do it, thing is I gave myself to him and he didn't give up, don't let the world judge you because God is the only judge, but be clear are serving yourself or him are you really for him, if you are a Christian you should be praying to your God not asking people that don't no the first thing about you
It doesn't make you a non-Christian. It just makes you a weak one, like me..
Virginity is over rated. But if it's bothering you, get a vibrator and learn to please yourself until marriage! I ran across a Christian-run online toy shop the other day; a store like that would understand your situation.
And if it's *really* bothering you, there's a new surgery where your hymen can be recreated!
Hormones are normal
And while God will always love you and you are a Christian, you should try to live by Christian values at least a little more-sleep around on the third date, not the first
On a more serious note: from experience, sexual acts and guilt are a bad combination so my advice to you it, in whatever you choose, FULLY choose it. If you're going to keep having sex then you'll need to battle the Christian guilt that comes along with it unless you truly change your belief system.
From the age of 7 and on I seriously thought I was evil and going to hell because I touched myself and honestly, that's no way for a little girl to have to grow up.
Yes, why you ask
because you are human.
It is perfectly okay to have these feeling and think that way. Just follow your beliefs that you hold dear to the best of your ability. Just be you but don't mess up those beliefs, try your best to keep them and keep them realistic.
All in all, you are human and yes you are normal.
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Its normal for a HUMAN BEING to do that... have urges and wants and needs.
Just make sure you're safe, get tested for STI's inbetween partners and use a condom unless you want kids!
i pfrefre pure girls for marriage,, but it is up to you and do safe sex.
advice : do always safe SEX ok.
religion and sex are a fight. but but do your best to keep it safe. health and happyness first. sex is a part of life.
there many evolutionary reasons why you like having sex. in fact it is the primary instinct of a sexually mature human. to FUCK. to procreate.
but on the moral side of things. you consider yourself a christian yet you willingly (not too mention the fact that you like doing it) sin. if you feel bad about it then by all means stop doing it. but if you dont really give a fuck. then why not save a step and say that god doesnt exist. you can have moral freedom.
God put those desires in you, so its normal. I wouldn't think it would be a good idea to be slutty and sleep with everyone you meet. Take your time and be very choosy about how you sleep with. Sex can lead to STDs and pregnancies.
So many opinions. Sex is a physiological fact which is popular in one form or another among all living things. Morals are devices placed on self and by others. While I don't advocate promiscuity, the facts of the matters are that no one here can tell you about your relationship with God any more than they can describe or understand perfection. While there can be psychological aspects to any decisions you make, also, keep in mind your own physical (health) preservation. Learn about the things involving sex, not just STD's but things like what can happen with your vaginal flora as it can be altered though unprotected sex, especially with multiple partners.. Learn. You mind will make up itself on the other stuff.
everyone disobeys gods word and i know that, but hun its time to talk to god about this. if you need help, dont ask non Christians, they may not fully understand your situation. go to god and ask for help, ask to have him help you, or ask him to help you realize what you should really do better, if that makes any sense whatsoever.
fuck it if your only sleeping with your boyfriend then your fine
what you gonna stop now because your friends say its not right? there probably just jelous
im christian and i've been with my gf for 3 years and we have sex all the time so dont worry about it
I'm not a full Christian, but I would concider myself to believe in Christ and God and read the bible etc.
I don't believe there is anything wrong with having sex as long as it is under control and you know about your sexual health etc, and about the sexual health of the person you are with.
If you have continuous sex with your boyfriend, that is similar to married life with freedom, because you trust and care for eachother, there should be nothing stopping you if you are both happy.
Sometimes devoted Christians can be iver the top and they don't understnad basic natural human needs
everyone has urges, and being christian is no different
and you can 'repurify' your body by going to confession and by sticking to a promise that you'll never do it again .
I'm christian have been all my life and i have never given it a second taught!
Sex is a natural thing and will always be pure by the way your talking about your friends they seem quiet young meaning you are too maybe not
but if your under sixteen you should consider keeping yourself pure or however you want to put it but in the end love ehat eva feels right for you you know !
and remember dont be silly wrap your willy lol!!!!!
dont listen to anyones bullshit !
Christians sorry but i think they need help..
premarital sex...
come onnnnn... its stupid to me just another stupid christian move to keep people brainwashed and unhappy do what yu want if yur friends want to waste their lives and wait till marriage so be it but i suggest yu dont i mean saving yourself for one guy.... their are variety out their im not saying go fuck everyone that walks through the door but live yur life to the fullest and remember if yur happy god's happy [=