As the child of a narcissistic mother, I can say that she pushed the blame onto me whenever I confronted her about what she was doing, insisting that she was the victim and that I was always in the wrong. I never felt like I deserved to resent her, so I never said anything against her (luckily I know now that wasn't actually the case, and that I deserve to be angry).
In contrast, the people who haven't really gone through that will be more open about what's bothering them, and so can complain a bit more because they might not have that crushing "it's my fault anyway" feeling that comes with wanting more. Generally, if you haven't had the idea that you don't deserve the better treatment, you'd probably be more outspoken about things (unless you've had other issues, but focusing solely on this topic, that's my view)
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As the child of a narcissistic mother, I can say that she pushed the blame onto me whenever I confronted her about what she was doing, insisting that she was the victim and that I was always in the wrong. I never felt like I deserved to resent her, so I never said anything against her (luckily I know now that wasn't actually the case, and that I deserve to be angry).
In contrast, the people who haven't really gone through that will be more open about what's bothering them, and so can complain a bit more because they might not have that crushing "it's my fault anyway" feeling that comes with wanting more. Generally, if you haven't had the idea that you don't deserve the better treatment, you'd probably be more outspoken about things (unless you've had other issues, but focusing solely on this topic, that's my view)