I'm sorry things have to happen this way. I'm afraid the damage has been done. If you had told him back then you were seeing his best friend, then things might be alright, but for him to find out this way must be extremely traumatic.
I've experienced something like this before so let me tell you what's happening to him: he's lost his faith in true love. Once upon a time, he was faithful to the person he loved only to be betrayed in this way. Once upon a time, he though that as long as he is faithful and nice, kind and caring, she would do the same to him. But not anymore. He will never invest the same time and energy on a woman like that again.
I'm not saying all of this to criticize you. You did what you had to do, but let's be fair here, if he never finds a woman again, it's probably because of you.
There's not much use now talking to him. You will only be seen as talking to him purely out of pity. He needs to talk to somebody about it, but that somebody cannot be you. Until he talks to someone about it, he will never get over this and find himself another girl. Frankly, he deserves someone better...
i agree. leave the guy alone. he not only deserves better than you, he deserves to not have either you or his worthless ex "best friend" anywhere in his life.
Cheated on a good man
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I'm sorry things have to happen this way. I'm afraid the damage has been done. If you had told him back then you were seeing his best friend, then things might be alright, but for him to find out this way must be extremely traumatic.
I've experienced something like this before so let me tell you what's happening to him: he's lost his faith in true love. Once upon a time, he was faithful to the person he loved only to be betrayed in this way. Once upon a time, he though that as long as he is faithful and nice, kind and caring, she would do the same to him. But not anymore. He will never invest the same time and energy on a woman like that again.
I'm not saying all of this to criticize you. You did what you had to do, but let's be fair here, if he never finds a woman again, it's probably because of you.
There's not much use now talking to him. You will only be seen as talking to him purely out of pity. He needs to talk to somebody about it, but that somebody cannot be you. Until he talks to someone about it, he will never get over this and find himself another girl. Frankly, he deserves someone better...
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i agree. leave the guy alone. he not only deserves better than you, he deserves to not have either you or his worthless ex "best friend" anywhere in his life.