Cheated on a good man

I don't understand how people could cheat like that.
Dipsh**s like you wreck homes and negatively affect the lives of many.
You lost a good man and I hope you get what you deserve.

he would probably feel better if your fiance cheated on you with your best friend,got engaged to her, and then got cheated on by her.

hey umm pointing out the obvious u never cared bought his feelings when u cheated on him with his best friend and now u care like what the hell is wrong with u :P

I think you're a b*tch to be honest.

leave the poor guy alone, ok?

u sound so big headed.. he DOESNT want you back cos like MrChimpo said, ur a terrible human being.

you knew EXACTLY what u were doing when u cheated with his best friend! how could you do that to him?? u and ur current boyfriend should just P*SS off and leave ur ex lone.

I'm sorry things have to happen this way. I'm afraid the damage has been done. If you had told him back then you were seeing his best friend, then things might be alright, but for him to find out this way must be extremely traumatic.

I've experienced something like this before so let me tell you what's happening to him: he's lost his faith in true love. Once upon a time, he was faithful to the person he loved only to be betrayed in this way. Once upon a time, he though that as long as he is faithful and nice, kind and caring, she would do the same to him. But not anymore. He will never invest the same time and energy on a woman like that again.

I'm not saying all of this to criticize you. You did what you had to do, but let's be fair here, if he never finds a woman again, it's probably because of you.

There's not much use now talking to him. You will only be seen as talking to him purely out of pity. He needs to talk to somebody about it, but that somebody cannot be you. Until he talks to someone about it, he will never get over this and find himself another girl. Frankly, he deserves someone better...

Congratulations, you're a terrible human being.

I agree with everyone else who calls you a bitch. Just stay out of his life, he doesn't need people like you.

And seriously, why would he need to be dating any woman within a year? He doesn't need anyone to be concerned about his love life, you're obviously no expert. It almost seems like you just want to fix things up and see him with a new girl so you can feel better about yourself.

I also agree, and from my own experience with exactly the same situation I can say that chances are... he hates you and always will. Get over it and leave him alone. You've done more than enough already. Nothing personal, but you don't even deserve to be acknowledged by him.

The funniest thing is how much is revealed about how selfish this person really is by the final line in the post...

"Is it normal to want this guy back in our lives?"

As if it wasnt enough to cheat on him with his best friend, you want him back in your life to make yourself feel better about what you did, knowing it destroyed him and he will probably never be the same.

You dont care about him or his feelings you just want to end your own feelings of guilt over what you did.

Yet another reason I choose to be single.

What a fucking piece of shit you are.

Never talk to him again. Never go back in his life . You broke him apart and ruin the rest of his love life. He will never be able to love again or trust someone because OF YOU !

You practically destroyed him. Now leave him alone bitch.

Wow seriously? You cheat on a good guy then go to marry the dude you cheated on him with and then expect you can get it back to normal? You probably broke the dudes heart and took a large part of his lfe away from him, you've done enough damage without having to make him be with it forever. I know If my girl ever left me for my friend i would be heartbroken, hate the dude, and never want to see them together for damn sure.

I have a hard time feeling sorry for you. If a girl did that to me with anyone, let alone someone I trusted, I would be crushed. And he sounds like a damn decent guy to forgive either of you at all, and not to take a shovel to his "friend's" head.

You're a fu**ing Bit*h with a capital B. Same thing happened to my best friend aswell. His girlfriend cheated on him with his buddy and he hasnt been the same ever since.

Down with all you slu*s.

Wow you and your fiance suck lol.

You are a bitch i would have killed you if i were him i would have strung u up by ur feet and slit ur throat and watched you with your life slowly draining away cuz thats probably how you made that man feel but thats just me have a nice life slut

Wow. That's tough. I could put myself in your shoes and try to think about how you feel, but you would really have to walk in his shoes to understand how bad that guy feels. He has become disenchanted with life and is working to distract himself from the reality that two people he trusted betrayed him. He probably has lost his faith in social and sexual relationships. He's going through a healing process that may not end for a long time.
If he had cheated on you with your best friend chances are you probably wouldn't want anything to do with him either. I agree, just give the man his space. You never know, he could go serial killer on your a**

You're a f***ing disgrace.

You are a slut. You know it, your ex knows it, and your fiance knows it. Don't ever forget that.

i would really recommend not going to talk to this man, who knows what fuse that may light...
listen i know shit happens and mistakes are made. dont let people judge your for this. however having said this, not the best idea on your part. lucky he didnt attack the man right then and there... cuz i did when it happened to me...

ok.i know that this is an old question but i just had to comment on this.first of all-you and your ''fiancee'' are two very bad people and if your ex is smart he will erase you two from his life completley.you have no idea what you did to this man and you never will...actually i think you will when your ''fiancee'' do that to you.why? because if he cheated with you he will cheat on you.the very base of your marriage is tainted and no matter how much you two ''love ' each other(if you even know what love really means),it will happen again.it is just the way it is.when things cool down in couple of years you two will start to question each other as you should.i mean you ARE the cheaters and betrayers after all.this very question that you asked just shows how far gone you actually are.you have the audacity to ask somehing like this instead to leave that guy alone and let him forget,as much as he can,one of biggest traumas of his life.live him alone.let him find somebody who is worthy of his love.who gives a fuck if you feel bad.now you want to help him?!?!give me a break.you want absolution.you don't want to feel bad and you want everybody to be friends so you can feel good.fuck you.and no,like i said,i 've seen things like this and marriages like this and i can tell you right now-yours will not be a happy one that is for sure.shame on you.both of you.i had friends who did exactly what you did and i erased them from my life and never looked back.never missed them either. ijust couldn't stand their faces any more.to keep them as friends would have mean always looking over my shoulder.who wants people like that in his life?

Not normal. You lectured and changed that dude forever.

I think the only thing that could make him feel better is to see your life and relationship destroyed.

You fucked up cunt.

You cheated on this guy with his BEST FRIEND and are going to marry him to boot? You withered up cunt bag. Leave him be. I'd be miserable too if I ended up with someone like you at one point in my life.. So what? You're happy, right? so, why give a shit about his feelings? You didn't seem to be thinking about how he feels while you were banging his best mate. People suck! You suck! I hope you get cheated on, asshole.

Bitch

I say ignore everyone here!!! How do any of us know how he is feeling?!? I reckon you should approach him and see where he is at.. You cheated on him for a reason... Everyone conveniently forgets this point!!! There is no harm in seeing how he is these days.. I say go for it, but be prepared for anything... I can't believe how rude everyone has been to you.. Sorry on behalf of everyone here.. :(

First, you cheated on him. Second, you did it with his best friend. Third, you now plan to marry the guy. Haven't you done enough already? Leave him alone. He has trust issues and he will never be able to sort them out if two people he trusted the most that betrayed him remains in his life.

Yes it is completly normal but it is not in the best intrest of his mental health or state.

He is probably emotionally destroyed and it is hard for someone to have to see the people who did it to them, could make there life miserable.

And no person should suffer that

From personal experience I would say to let him go. I found myself in the same situation (Kinda) and my boyfriend is still best friends with his buddy who I almost cheated with. *YES I'M A HORRIBLE PERSON TOO* I got caught planing to cheat. I regret it. But it drives me nuts when we all hang out and I don't understand why my bf is still with me or best buds with his friend. I guess I deserve to feel miserable. In your circumstances... you should let him go. If I stayed with my bf's best friend. It would torture my ex bf to know that were together. Don't do that to him.

wow that is (****)=). try to know is he seriously doing it and the people are not delivered by him. if it is not so the best way is go back to him and tell him that your really sorry and you want him to come back to you and you come back to him.

then you would spend with him your whole life happy.

but now if you ignore it you would not be happy and he would not be happy in your whole life.

everything comes back to you!!!!!!!