Character is more important than personality

There’s a distinct difference because character is your moral values, beliefs and the way you treat people. Personality is how you act like how fun or interesting you are.

I think character wins by a long shot, especially in marriage. People say that if a spouse is bored, they’ll leave. But it depends on the person. If a couple keeps their faith in God and hopes for a better future, that makes up for much of the difficulty in their relationship.

My assumption is that conservatives see character as much more important because most Christian women, for example, don’t date guys who are atheist, no matter how fun they are. It’s a long term thing.

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  • Call me crazy, but I want to have both a good character, and good personality, and I hope to find both a good character, and good personality in others. Yes, I want the whole kit, and caboodle!

    There's a saying in twelve step groups that comes from the twelfth tradition, "principles before personalities", and I'm a firm believer in that concept!

    A person can have a very friendly, and witty personality, but if that person routinely lies then I'm afraid I'm gonna have to pass on associating with that person! Also it's very important to note that a lot of narcissists, and sociopaths are very superficially charming... fuck that!

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  • I dont understand the question but I agree character is more important than personality. I know guys who are super charming but if you let them in your house they will steal your shit as soon as you look away.

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  • I've got character in spades, but am seriously lacking in personality

    It's hard for to me find people it's fun to talk with

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  • They’re all the same thing you stupid fuck

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    • Damn why you gotta call him a stupid fuck?

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      • Because of my bad character!

        Or my personality is shitty..I don’t know...

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        • It’s like comparing physics and math. Sure, there’s a lot that these two subjects use, but lots of differences between them.

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          • How does quantum physics equate to that? Further towards math or further towards physics?

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            • That's more physics, on such a small scale

              But it also uses math to explain what's going on

              But what the OP is saying is that the two words have nuances that justify the comparison

              Honestly, getting caught up in technicalities on this one really prevents the cognitive growth that could be developed by thinking about the content

              Like someone standing still at a crossroads arguing the necessity of it while someone else looks at a map and promptly goes on their most appropriate path

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  • An interesting perspective, having never been married I don’t see it through the same lense as you but it is a good way of explaining why I dislike certain relatives. It not simply a case of our personalities clashing, having differing tastes and recreating in different ways, it’s that their morals (eg. thinking it’s funny to steal and mock disabled people) don’t align with my own.

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    • Morals guide our personalities

      I can't really put it all in a nice comment, but Kohlberg's Moral Development really outlines things pretty well

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