Cant make up her mind

Yeah, Chris pretty much said it all here. This whole scenario sounds so familiar to me -- I see this sort of thing with my youngest daughter and her friends all the time. The little wenches constantly serve as judge and jury to their friends' boyfriends, and it can all get damned nasty.

The thing is, she has them whispering in one ear, and the older guy whispering in the other. Your voice is just a tiny little squeak in the distance. I think the fact that you lied to her is probably the least of the obstacles and this is likely just being used as an excuse to further drive a wedge between the two of you. I think you must face the fact that now is not the time to pursue your relationship. I would simply tell her that you care very much, but you can see that her interests and her energies lie elsewhere at this time. Then, let the ball lie in her court. If she picks it up, well and good. If not, at least you'll know where you stand.