Can't stand this little boy!!

If you really loved your boyfriend you would never ask him to give his CHILD up for adoption! How selfish of you! What makes you think you could ever be more important to this man than his baby? Move on before you ruin a child's life. And if you would so easily try to get rid of a child, you are definitely not ready for your own. You need Loyalty, Gratitude, Compassion, Respect, Integrity and Honor before you have kids, and you do not seem like you practice any of those.

you're a horrible person for telling your boyfriend to get rid of his child.

Get rid of your boyfriend.

If you really like the guy, you need to like the whole package otherwise I say get out of there.

If yuu love him yuu need to suck it up and love his child!!

I agree with flabbergasm. You would really have him give up his child? If I had a girfriend and she suggested something like that even in passing I'd probably dump her.

"I think the best thing for me to do is to forget about this relationship..." You are absolutely right to put this father's relationship with his son above your relationship with him.

You may want to step back & get some good help around your jealousy & hostility toward this child. If that turns your feelings around then it may be different.

But otherwise, leave, for the sake of this child, father & yourself. Just make a fresh start & be happy that you've had the courage to be honest with yourself & everyone else & to do no harm.

that boys life will be ruined if you stay in his life. especially if you marry his dad. his life probably sucks already, he needs a loving and supportive stepmom. you'll just turn him into a serial killer. best to move on.

if you love him you will understand what he feels maybe you have to take some time to think it through,because the love he feels for this child is a love of a father and thats why he lives with the child even with all the flaws the child has, so if you cant accept that or overlook it and have more kindness in your heart
to see what that child must feel like, i mean put yourself in his place having to deal with having a mom that left him for drugs whilst having a instable life, and to make it worse his only mother figure which is suppose to be you hates him!!! if i were him i would be pissed off 2 put yourself in his place.

i agree with buried. if you can't stand the kid, that's how you feel. but it isnt fair to you, your bf, or the kid to stick around. its not a workable situation.

I agree, you should just move on. I don't think it would be good for either you or your boyfriend and DEFINITELY not for his son if you stayed together, as having the child around will just put too much pressure on the relationship if you hate him that much. Even if you did manage to make your bf give up living with his son (which you don't really have any right to do) he would resent you too much for you to carry on happily. I do sympathise with you, I feel that way about almost all children, but unless you find some kind of mutually agreed upon middle ground with your bf I don't see how you could continue.
Oh yes, and btw, 90%% of children are annoying and impolite, and even more so when they come from broken homes. The child will most likely improve his behaviour if your bf provides stability and maybe some outside help if the kid has anger issues or anything.