The only advice you need when it comes to conversations is that you need to be genuinely interested in the other person. People find themselves talking about the weather because they're too scared to ask about something that actually matters to the other person in a meaningful way. Indulge in your curiosity and ask questions. Conversations become awkward when you focus too much on trying to keep it moving rather than trying to actually enjoy it. If you're excited about what you're discussing, awkwardness just sort of washes away.
One last thing; don't be afraid to pause. A lot of people end up sounding like babbling morons because they don't think that it's okay to stop talking for a second. If the person you're talking to asks an interesting question or says something that intrigues you, pause for a second. Think about what you want to say for a couple seconds before you say it. I guarantee that the other person will be on the edge of their seat waiting for your response. You won't look weird or stupid, you'll just look like you actually give a fuck about what you're discussing. There is nothing worse than just blurting out bullshit because you don't know what to say.
Also, eye contact and a smile will make you a lot more fun to talk to. If you've ever had a conversation with someone that is really bad with eye contact, you'll know what I mean.
"The only advice you need when it comes to conversations is that you need to be genuinely interested in the other person"
Bullshit. Conmen, psychopaths, narcs and pathological liars are great conversationalists by their very nature. And they couldn't give two shits about the other person and only find themselves interesting.
So clearly being genuine isn't part of holding a good conversation.
"because they're too scared to ask about something that actually matters to the other person in a meaningful way"
Actually, people seem to greatly fear being asked this.
"One last thing; don't be afraid to pause. A lot of people end up sounding like babbling morons because they don't think that it's okay to stop talking for a second"
Only if the person on the receiving end is slow. I always think "hurry the fuck up and spit it out you moron, it's not rocket science"
"eye contact and a smile will make you a lot more fun to talk to"
Well actually...oh wait..yeah this is true. Except if you're like me and have amazing eyes, some people get lost in them. They stare into them so intently you feel as though they're about to try and climb into your head.
No offense man but you sound like a bit of a dick. Somehow I don't think I would enjoy a conversation with you at all.
1. Just because psychopaths aren't genuine doesn't mean you shouldn't be. I am giving conversation tips to make friends and get closer to people, not deceive them and play with their heads. Being genuine IS important and it's a trait that people generally appreciate.
2. I don't know why you think people fear being asked about meaningful things. That's completely outrageous. I don't think many people live fearing the day that someone asks them about something they actually want to talk about. God forbid.
3. If a natural pause of a couple seconds pisses you off than you're not really having a conversation. You're just waiting for your turn to talk again.
4. I have nothing to say.
You sound like a relatively intelligent person and I respect what you have to say as much as I can but you're mixed up man. Unless of course you're just fucking with me, in that case good job.
"No offense man but you sound like a bit of a dick"
I am, but the best people are often seen that way.
"Just because psychopaths aren't genuine doesn't mean you shouldn't be. I am giving conversation tips to make friends and get closer to people, not deceive them and play with their heads. Being genuine IS important and it's a trait that people generally appreciate"
Don't get me wrong, I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just saying that it is not necessary in the slightest. Some of the best conversations I've ever had involved me not being genuinely interested at all. I assume I'm not some sort of magical new person so I would think most others could say the same at times.
"I don't know why you think people fear being asked about meaningful things. That's completely outrageous. I don't think many people live fearing the day that someone asks them about something they actually want to talk about. God forbid."
Having a fear of opening up to people in such ways is one of the most common social problems among people, where do you live? Under a rock or something?
"If a natural pause of a couple seconds pisses you off than you're not really having a conversation. You're just waiting for your turn to talk again."
No it doesn't, I hate people who can't think on the spot and have to roll over each sentence in their heads. Something that is all too common. I ment it more in the sense that people can't talk too quickly for me. Though I do take things in quite quickly, I'm a sharp cat/dick.
Can't seem to keep a conversation going... IIN?
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The only advice you need when it comes to conversations is that you need to be genuinely interested in the other person. People find themselves talking about the weather because they're too scared to ask about something that actually matters to the other person in a meaningful way. Indulge in your curiosity and ask questions. Conversations become awkward when you focus too much on trying to keep it moving rather than trying to actually enjoy it. If you're excited about what you're discussing, awkwardness just sort of washes away.
One last thing; don't be afraid to pause. A lot of people end up sounding like babbling morons because they don't think that it's okay to stop talking for a second. If the person you're talking to asks an interesting question or says something that intrigues you, pause for a second. Think about what you want to say for a couple seconds before you say it. I guarantee that the other person will be on the edge of their seat waiting for your response. You won't look weird or stupid, you'll just look like you actually give a fuck about what you're discussing. There is nothing worse than just blurting out bullshit because you don't know what to say.
Also, eye contact and a smile will make you a lot more fun to talk to. If you've ever had a conversation with someone that is really bad with eye contact, you'll know what I mean.
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"The only advice you need when it comes to conversations is that you need to be genuinely interested in the other person"
Bullshit. Conmen, psychopaths, narcs and pathological liars are great conversationalists by their very nature. And they couldn't give two shits about the other person and only find themselves interesting.
So clearly being genuine isn't part of holding a good conversation.
"because they're too scared to ask about something that actually matters to the other person in a meaningful way"
Actually, people seem to greatly fear being asked this.
"One last thing; don't be afraid to pause. A lot of people end up sounding like babbling morons because they don't think that it's okay to stop talking for a second"
Only if the person on the receiving end is slow. I always think "hurry the fuck up and spit it out you moron, it's not rocket science"
"eye contact and a smile will make you a lot more fun to talk to"
Well actually...oh wait..yeah this is true. Except if you're like me and have amazing eyes, some people get lost in them. They stare into them so intently you feel as though they're about to try and climb into your head.
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No offense man but you sound like a bit of a dick. Somehow I don't think I would enjoy a conversation with you at all.
1. Just because psychopaths aren't genuine doesn't mean you shouldn't be. I am giving conversation tips to make friends and get closer to people, not deceive them and play with their heads. Being genuine IS important and it's a trait that people generally appreciate.
2. I don't know why you think people fear being asked about meaningful things. That's completely outrageous. I don't think many people live fearing the day that someone asks them about something they actually want to talk about. God forbid.
3. If a natural pause of a couple seconds pisses you off than you're not really having a conversation. You're just waiting for your turn to talk again.
4. I have nothing to say.
You sound like a relatively intelligent person and I respect what you have to say as much as I can but you're mixed up man. Unless of course you're just fucking with me, in that case good job.
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"No offense man but you sound like a bit of a dick"
I am, but the best people are often seen that way.
"Just because psychopaths aren't genuine doesn't mean you shouldn't be. I am giving conversation tips to make friends and get closer to people, not deceive them and play with their heads. Being genuine IS important and it's a trait that people generally appreciate"
Don't get me wrong, I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just saying that it is not necessary in the slightest. Some of the best conversations I've ever had involved me not being genuinely interested at all. I assume I'm not some sort of magical new person so I would think most others could say the same at times.
"I don't know why you think people fear being asked about meaningful things. That's completely outrageous. I don't think many people live fearing the day that someone asks them about something they actually want to talk about. God forbid."
Having a fear of opening up to people in such ways is one of the most common social problems among people, where do you live? Under a rock or something?
"If a natural pause of a couple seconds pisses you off than you're not really having a conversation. You're just waiting for your turn to talk again."
No it doesn't, I hate people who can't think on the spot and have to roll over each sentence in their heads. Something that is all too common. I ment it more in the sense that people can't talk too quickly for me. Though I do take things in quite quickly, I'm a sharp cat/dick.
-Tommy, king of all cats.