Can't seem to connect

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I'm a 6'2" 18 yo male. I've never had a girlfriend, and I'm always really nervous around strangers.

I'm quite overweight, but as well as being tall I have quite a wide chest and wide shoulders, so I guess I "carry it well".

I consider myself to be reasonably intelligent, and socially aware, but I always get extremely nervous when talking to new people, mostly girls. Even very sweet, harmless looking girls my older sister introduces me to, usually good friends of hers. I just can't sit still, or be myself when I'm around them.

I went through a whole paranoid phase when I was younger. If I heard a girl laughing, anywhere, even from the other side of a mall, I would just KNOW she was laughing at me.

I now know they're not judging me, and in truth barely care about me, but I can't shake the feeling of paranoia.

IIN?

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  • peterr
    10 years ago

    Just suck your male friends off for now and when you are ok with that you can start dating women or continue to blow your buds.

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  • Avant-Garde
    12 years ago

    I get this too. I hear people whispering or laughing I often feel that it's about me. I think your paranoia stems from low self-esteem and a social anxiety. Do you have any close friends that you can confide in? Someone to make you feel better or even a self-help book on better self-esteem.

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  • marijuana
    14 years ago

    dude, girls are not everything you know. enjoy your life mun. nothin wrong with you but what society is puttin inna your head. ok?

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  • rose500
    14 years ago

    I know your feeling iv posted a similar story about myself (is it normal not to have a boyfriend) and some of my comments really helped me you should have a look.

    It is a confidence things.

    Its just as hard for males as it is for woman in the dating field.

    Your properly not overweight it your age. If you take up any form of exercise or a sport it will complexly fall off.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    Hehehe... same stuff here...
    But, action will help you.
    If you spend enough time with them, you will chill. Try hanging out with some friends, to spend enough time so you can discover real yourself in their presence. All you need is a time, and a girl as a friend.

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