Can't get erections and i'm only 27

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I'm 27, and I think I'm having trouble getting erections and having sex.

I first noticed it when I was 22. I dated a girl for 2 years and we had trouble having sex the whole time. We only managed to have real sex a few times and those times I always ejaculated quickly because I wasn't hard. I tried convincing myself that it was because we fought all the time, and because I was going through a rough time and experiencing a lot of chronic anxiety & mild depression.

Months later we broke up and I was messing around with a friend and we wanted to have sex but I stopped it because I wasn't geting hard. I also didn't feel very aroused. I actually got tired of making out with her, even though I liked her. I tried telling myself that it happened because she was a friend and that I really didn't have feelings for her, but she was attractive and I thought I should've been hard anyway.

And then, this last New Years, I met a girl at a party who wanted to have sex with me and I liked her too but I couldn't get hard. She was begging me for sex and I couldn't do it. Part of me wonders if it didn't happen because 1) I was worried about getting caught, and 2) because I was worried it wouldn't happen, but for the most part I was actually not that worried about the above and was pretty focused on the girl.

So... am I normal? I'm only 27 and I don't think I should be having this problem and it's been going on for a bit. I also feel anxious all the time and wonder whether that could be the cause or whether it's another symptom.

So... am I normal?

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  • toys4us
    12 years ago | pl

    Try boys your a puff

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Try viagra, or cialis.

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  • mowglie
    12 years ago | pl

    This is something that you will have to try hard to 'tell yourself' to stop worrying about - easy for me to say I know.

    With each of the instances you failed to get an erection you were either not turned on, worried you'd get caught, you were trying to convince yourself it was because of anxiety - every time you have had something in the back of your mind, when really all you want in your mind at that particular time is the girl in front of you.
    The little chap between your legs will do his job fine, don't worry about it. I know exactly how you feel, I'm a few years older than you and have had a similar problem.

    You’ll also have to prove to yourself that you can get and stay hard.

    A personal question, do you masturbate?

    If not try to get yourself on your own, where you know you won't have anyone walk in on you, relax, watch a horny film and 'enjoy' yourself. I’m not talking a quickie either, stroke everything, make yourself stay hard, if you feel you’re gonna cum, stop for a few minutes and carry on, but ensure you stay hard throughout.
    I'm willing to bet you'll have no trouble at all.
    A couple of friends invited me to watch a DVD one night. We were watching and beginning to get hard and before I knew it they’d both opened their fly’s and were jackin off. I wasn’t sure what to do until, he said “aren’t you joining in then?” hesitantly, I did and enjoyed myself. After, he asked me, what I was worried about, and to be honest I couldn’t answer him but from then on I had no other problems. My mates never mentioned it, as they’d planned the whole thing, but I can tell you I was glad they did!

    Of course the other side of the coin, If you do, are you doing it too much? Many men get ‘carried away’ and do it too frequently and fast, quickies - get hard, rub, cum, flaccid, job done! Thus ‘teaching’ their penises they don’t have to stay up that long! Sex isn’t about that it’s about enjoying the moment and the person you’re with.
    Once you’ve proven to yourself you can stay hard, you’ll have no trouble at all, from there on in!

    Good Luck!

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