When I see someone with self-harm scars, I feel uncomfortable around them, and try not to look them eye after that because if they knew I saw the scar then they might believe I am judging them and somehow be able to "tell" by looking into my eyes. - And I'd rather not make them feel like they're being judged. I also feel uncomfortable because seeing depressed people reminds me of my past and my mortality, so that's never fun.
I don't think they're worse people, but I do feel it is a weak thing to do. Still, I'd be willing to be friends with someone who has self-harmed as long as they never do that while we're friends.
As for you, I think "sure! many people can love you for the good person you truly are" - just don't burden others with your struggle and get a professional therapist or your friends may leave you because it's too much for them.
Can people still love me when I struggle with self harm?
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When I see someone with self-harm scars, I feel uncomfortable around them, and try not to look them eye after that because if they knew I saw the scar then they might believe I am judging them and somehow be able to "tell" by looking into my eyes. - And I'd rather not make them feel like they're being judged. I also feel uncomfortable because seeing depressed people reminds me of my past and my mortality, so that's never fun.
I don't think they're worse people, but I do feel it is a weak thing to do. Still, I'd be willing to be friends with someone who has self-harmed as long as they never do that while we're friends.
As for you, I think "sure! many people can love you for the good person you truly are" - just don't burden others with your struggle and get a professional therapist or your friends may leave you because it's too much for them.