Can open relationships and love co-exist ?

My girlfriend tells me that she loves me; wants a committed relationship and then turns around and tells me that she wants to be able to have sex with other guys, and that one day she will leave me.

I may be old fashioned; and I know that love is a mysterious thing ... yet to me, I hold this belief:

A committed and loving relationship is communicated by saying that you want to be committed; not that you will leave and that at some random point in the future that you will want to get involved with other people.

Am I normal in this belief ?

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Based on 64 votes (39 yes)
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Comments ( 17 )
  • Next thing you know, your sandwiched between two amputees and a dwarf.

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  • peterr

    She must suck a mean cock for you to put up with her shit. Become a queer and you will be happier.

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  • joeshmoe278

    go fucking translate it i'm done spending my time on this...fuck!

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  • joeshmoe278

    Sé que cada hombre tiene necesidades y yo hemos dejado claro a mi marido si alguna vez se cansa de mi coño tiene que decirme, y tenemos que traer emoción a nuestras vidas por medio de permitir que otra mujer discreta limpia en nuestro dormitorio. si eso no funciona, que no me lo esperaba ... Tengo que prepararme para el día que viene en el que está jodiendo a alguien a mis espaldas. Debido a que las frutas prohibidas son las que tienen más sabor. Lo quiero mucho y me trata como una reina y después de salir del infierno para los últimos 26 años estaré agradecido por lo que incluso si quiere conseguir su emoción de estar con otra mujer. Quiero seguir a este hombre. Él me ha dado una nueva oportunidad en la vida y me ha abierto los ojos a un mundo hermoso y un hogar lleno de paz y tranquilidad y eso es todo lo que quiero para mi hija. Por lo tanto, si algún día decide tener una vida secreta en el lado sólo para llenar una "necesidad de hombres" que él tiene que cumplir, entonces estoy de acuerdo con eso porque lo que nos ha dado es una casa donde yo y mi hija no tenemos que preocuparnos de ninguna pinche cosa y estamos muy, muy feliz. Tengo que añadir que somos pobres y no soy un "Kim Kardashian viviendo el estilo de la vida lujosa" que soy una mujer blanca que ha vivido en un infierno para las tres últimas décadas de mi vida y ahora mi vida es bastante tan maravilloso es que el nunca me dice una mala palabra a mi, no me mira feo, no me trata mal, no viene a casa del trabajo tarde, no va a beber con sus amigos, siempre me demuestra afecto y atención, lo que hace su parte y si tengo la sensación de que quiere cumplir sus deseos varoniles, entonces puede hacerlo ... Rezo por él usa un condón con calquier mujer que esta cojiendo, y no trae enfermedades sexuales a casa conmigo. En otras palabras, como muchas mujeres dicen: "Yo sólo quiero un hombre que me trata bien y viene a casa a Mí en la noche." ya digo suficiente.

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  • norm

    shade is right, you cant tell someone else what to do with their body.

    A commitment, on the other hand, is when someone GIVES you their exclusivity. You cant force it.

    The relationship offered to the original poster bothers him, or he wouldnt have posted.

    My advice, move on. (BEFORE you get her pregnant!)

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    God I hate people. Open relationships are not wrong and commitment is an outdated term. What gives anyone the right to tell another reasoning being with opinions of their own what to do? Dating someone doesnt mean you own their body.

    BUT, it can't really be a loving relationship if she's planning on leaving you already. So if you're looking for long term, I'd be like nah dude.

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  • Legion

    While it is possible to be in a loving relationship and still have sex with other people (swinging, three somes, etc.), she is obviously not commited. Those mentioned above still love eac other very much and they have no plans of leaving each other.

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  • Lysosome

    Why would you ever have a relationship based on love where there is really just a ticking clock to the end?

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  • TheGuruOfTheSauce

    I'm down with that send her my way

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  • Cosmicgiggle

    They usually don't last. Imagine a double sestet airplane being occupied by a third. Down it goes

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  • merkovah

    I've come to describe this phenomena as the 'incredible open-committed relationship with a deadline.' ... meh.

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  • randomjelly

    If she loved you then you would be enough.

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  • JuliusE

    Eva and Fascists such as myself believe that it is NOT too much to ask for that both partners be committed in a relationship. Sorry chief but your girl is a slut and doesn't deserve you... unless you are dumb enough to stay with her

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  • Drop her quicker than shit. Granted nowadays no one really knows how to have a commuted relationship, but those few if us that still believe in committment deserve to have someone only committed to us. Move on and find someone who won't stray from your side.

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  • xblackwidow20x

    Def move on she may love you... But she's not in love with you... Two diff things

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  • sherry

    Move on and avoid crotch crickets.

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  • bombalop

    Sounds like she's just staying for the sake of satisfying lust. I think you're right in your belief and that you should find someone who wants to be with only you. Relationships can only have so much freedom. Allowing her to have other guy friends is one thing, her wanting to have sex with other men is crossing the line abit here.

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