If she annoys you after a short while, then you probably shouldn't be around her. Forgive her and move on. Don't continue replaying the past in your mind. THERE IS NO FUTURE IN THE PAST.
Talk to her only when you need to or if youre thinking about her. Send her a card for her bday and holidays if you feel it in your heart to reach out.
I forgave people that have done me wrong so that i wont carry hate and shorten my life with bitterness; but I will never hang out with them again. I'll attend their funeral if they die before me and that is it.
Maybe in time, you'll have better control of your emotions. Many people in similar situations don't communicate with their parents until they're in their death bed. I hope your relation won't have to go that far.
I think I'm going to do as you say aim to forgive her atleast and hope that it can get better . And continue hoping I guess, maybe its because I am young and I don't want to lose hope but I am just scared of a relationship that would turn out like you say (only keeping minimum contact). It's just suck to accept that it would end like that and I can't help but feel like its unfair. To be so powerless to do anything , to change anything, it just sucks so bad and if its like that in my own family what can I possibly expect from others ? It sad
But the more I grow up the more I believe that life, people, everything isn't worth it and that its wishful thinking to believe otherwise. I just ask myself why, why was I even born. Why couldn't I just disapear. Unfortunatly just like the wish that things get better in my family that wish doesn't come true either...
Can I fix my issues with my mom? IIN?
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If she annoys you after a short while, then you probably shouldn't be around her. Forgive her and move on. Don't continue replaying the past in your mind. THERE IS NO FUTURE IN THE PAST.
Talk to her only when you need to or if youre thinking about her. Send her a card for her bday and holidays if you feel it in your heart to reach out.
I forgave people that have done me wrong so that i wont carry hate and shorten my life with bitterness; but I will never hang out with them again. I'll attend their funeral if they die before me and that is it.
Maybe in time, you'll have better control of your emotions. Many people in similar situations don't communicate with their parents until they're in their death bed. I hope your relation won't have to go that far.
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I think I'm going to do as you say aim to forgive her atleast and hope that it can get better . And continue hoping I guess, maybe its because I am young and I don't want to lose hope but I am just scared of a relationship that would turn out like you say (only keeping minimum contact). It's just suck to accept that it would end like that and I can't help but feel like its unfair. To be so powerless to do anything , to change anything, it just sucks so bad and if its like that in my own family what can I possibly expect from others ? It sad
But the more I grow up the more I believe that life, people, everything isn't worth it and that its wishful thinking to believe otherwise. I just ask myself why, why was I even born. Why couldn't I just disapear. Unfortunatly just like the wish that things get better in my family that wish doesn't come true either...