Just because your friend is the gender you're attracted to doesn't mean you are attracted to your friend. Because you're not gonna be attracted to all the people of the sex you're attracted to. Stop generalizing.
And yeah, sexual attraction plays a major role in the way a friendship develops. If there is attraction, you can eliminate the possibility of a pure friendship all together. Sure, both sides can accept to limit their relationship to friendship but that doesn't mean they're gonna feel comfortable. The frustration and jealousy will slowly creep it's way in, sooner or later.
So, i think, in order to have a healthy friendship between two people who view each other as friends ONLY, there can't be attraction. PERIOD!
What the eff? Your first paragraph is exactly what I said. I literally said "that doesn't mean all male and female friendships become like this" :P
I can comfortably say a lot of my female friends are pretty sexy. That doesn't mean I'm frustrated by the fact that we're not fucking each other :P I think lots of people are perfectly grown up enough to find someone attractive but not get jealous.
Your sexy "friends" are just acquaintances, not friends. I am talking strictly about close friendships. I thought things were pretty clear regarding this topic but yet again dom180 comes and gives another nuance that changes the whole dynamic of the subject. Your feminist views are obliterating your logic and are hindering your ability to approach things rationally.
I strongly advise you to avoid giving answers that could potentially be affected by your biases.
Can girls and guys be just friends?
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Just because your friend is the gender you're attracted to doesn't mean you are attracted to your friend. Because you're not gonna be attracted to all the people of the sex you're attracted to. Stop generalizing.
And yeah, sexual attraction plays a major role in the way a friendship develops. If there is attraction, you can eliminate the possibility of a pure friendship all together. Sure, both sides can accept to limit their relationship to friendship but that doesn't mean they're gonna feel comfortable. The frustration and jealousy will slowly creep it's way in, sooner or later.
So, i think, in order to have a healthy friendship between two people who view each other as friends ONLY, there can't be attraction. PERIOD!
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What the eff? Your first paragraph is exactly what I said. I literally said "that doesn't mean all male and female friendships become like this" :P
I can comfortably say a lot of my female friends are pretty sexy. That doesn't mean I'm frustrated by the fact that we're not fucking each other :P I think lots of people are perfectly grown up enough to find someone attractive but not get jealous.
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Your sexy "friends" are just acquaintances, not friends. I am talking strictly about close friendships. I thought things were pretty clear regarding this topic but yet again dom180 comes and gives another nuance that changes the whole dynamic of the subject. Your feminist views are obliterating your logic and are hindering your ability to approach things rationally.
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*rolls eye*
You are obvious.