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Can a fetish which is so extreme you'll likely never tell anyone about it keep you and another person bonded for life? No one knows, it's both of your secret for life, extremely intoxicating and intimate, etc. It just wouldn't feel right if you did it with anyone else, and if you split up and tie down with anyone else it'll be "just settling". Can this happen?
It sounds like bondage. since you talked a lot about tying, bonding, splitting..etc Yes, I think it can bond you together. after all, it's not even easy to find someone good (I assume good) who shares your fantasies and again good to you.
Hope it is not a fetish that involves a one cup.
Not exactly sure what you are asking here. Are you saying that if a person shares an extreme fetish with only one other person, that those two people share something special that can never be achieved again with another person? And for the person with said fetish, every relationship after would never compare to the one they had where they shared the fetish?
I seriously doubt that you are the only person with that fetish, even if you've never met someone else with it. Whatever it is, there is bound to be a chatroom, forum or even entire dating site dedicated to it.
Rule of the internet #34: If it exists, there is porn of it.
Well then I can definitely agree in some sense.
Having a relationship in which two people can share a fetish, or at least one person entertains the fetish for the sake of the other, creates a very rich sexual relationship between them. especially for the fetishist. I would know as I am in such a situation.
But if my relationship died for whatever reason, I wouldn't be hopeless. It's very difficult expressing my fetish to people. But I would still keep seeking and informing future partners of my fetish and keep looking for someone who can appreciate or even participate in my sexual fantasies.
so to more concisely answer your poll. Yes it does create a stronger bond between two people. However that bond is necessarily unique. There are plenty of people in the world that share extreme fetishes.
Fetishes cover a multitude of sins. some are, according to the dim-witted plebs, too disgusting to even consider but then, whatever rocks your boat. so, yes, an extreme fetish can bond two people happily for life. my wife and I indulge in several extreme fetishes which we would divulge to no one. We gain great enjoyment from them and couldn't really care less what the rest of the world would think about them. If they do us no harm, why shouldn't we indulge. It's really nobody else's business, however, because of the great secrecy we maintain, we couldn't find the same pleasures elsewhere, so, we're bonded for life, and happy in our perversions :-)
I have an Extreme fetish with matches and I have shared with three mates. You just have to be open, honest and Not be scared to just ask your partner if they would be interested in trying it with you! What some call extreme is not at all extreme to others. I say it could even spice your sex life up with your current mate. What's the worst that can happen? They could say no but just take a chance and trust that they just may be willing to try it.
I think trusting anyone with a deep dark secret, especially something so intrinsic to you, a deviant sexual desire, is bound to create a bond.
However, the extent of the bond wouldn't necessarily be significant. You'll be connected by that shared experience, but that could be it.
I also think, if a fetish matters enough to you that a marriage without it would constitute 'just settling', you should seek a wife/husband who will indulge in that fetish with you (if possible).