Can a woman change her mind about attraction?

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This question is for the women. Can a woman not be attracted to a man the first moment she sees him but then change her mind if he makes the right impression? Or does a woman have to feel attraction towards a man the first minute she sees him for there to be any chance of there ever being attraction, even if he makes the best impression, he's the most smooth, confident, interesting, etc.? Again, I'm asking this question to the women.

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rayb12

6 years ago

Men will use a woman's appearance to make exceptions for behavior. Women will use a man's behavior to make exceptions for appearance.

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kelliekelliekellie

6 years ago

Abso-fucking-lutely. The first time I met my actual boyfriend, I didn't even notice him that much, nor did I find him particularly attractive. It was only after I got to know him better that his sexiness overcame me ;)

On the contrary though!! When i met my ex I had an immediate connection... but we broke up a few months later

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dirtybirdy

6 years ago

I'm a chick, and there have been a few times when I was not initially attracted to a guy at first sight, but over time as I got to know him more, he became more attractive. It can certainly happen.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Thanks dirtybirdy. I liked your response. I have had the tendency alot to think that whenever a woman sees me and doesn't right away seem to care for what she sees (unattractive), that she will then never change her mind what she thinks of me, no matter how cool, confident, etc. I am. But your response gave me a little hope that just because it's not great at first doesn't automatically mean it will stay that way no matter what.
  
  Other people and websites I've read have said things such as "a woman will always know within the first 30 seconds of seeing you if she'll ever want to sleep with you or not". If that's true, then there will never, ever be any hope of a relationship and compatability no matter how well you play your cards just because she didn't find you attractive at first. My sister did say that her husband now, when she first saw him, she did not find him attractive, but they fell for each other due to them fitting so well together on so many other levels. Then again, there are those people who still say "a woman will always know within first 30 seconds..." that I wrote further up. The shallow women I know think that way. I'm just curious what percentage of women today in 2017 will not automatically write a guy off at first look due to attractiveness levels alone.
  
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  - dirtybirdy
    
    6 years ago
    
    It's a shame that bitches see that way,,, i seem to find that guys are sooo much more visual than ladies,,,,
    
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    - rayb12
      
      6 years ago
      
      We're visual!!!!
      
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Nickvey

6 years ago

women size a guy up in 2 seconds into fuckable or non- fuckable. depending on the whorepower of the car he drives the houses he owns or the next company he is going to buy. that was easy.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  How rugged his face is and how strong his body looks makes a difference too, he don't have to be ripped, he just needs to look strong enough that he doesn't look like most other guys will beat him in arm wrestling. And, he must look confident in his poise, facial expression, and body language. Most women can sense all of that in a guy in two seconds.
  
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Friedchiken

6 years ago

Yes. Imo you can only find somebody so attractive from looks alone. Personality to me will either make you look a lot more attractive or very unnatractive no matter what you look like. I'd never be with somebody just because of looks alone. You need to be beautiful inside and out

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Are you a guy or woman Friedchicken?
  
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    6 years ago
    
    I'm a woman
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      That's good because I was hoping that answer came from a woman's view. It gives me more hope that when a woman acts all cold shoulder with me at first sight, I can now realize that there will still be a chance that she can start to like things about me if I play it right. Before, I kept tending to think that when a woman looks at me cold from the get go, that would be it with her no matter what.
      
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      - MrDexter
        
        6 years ago
        
        That's how attraction works duh
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        6 years ago
        
        Not always from what I've seen. There are some women shallow enough that if she sees a man really unattractive, she will never become attracted to him even if she sees that he is the most smooth, confident, good sense of humored guy, she sees that he makes 7 figures a year, and she also sees that he is both the most badass guitar player and best football quarterback. If she sees that the man has every single one of those things, she would still not touch him with a ten foot pole because of his ugly looks. Yes, there are women that shallow, I've seen them. I do though agree with friedchiken that there also are some women who can not find you attractive at first, but then change her mind if you really show other good things about yourself, even if the good things don't even come close to the examples I listed above. But I do know that if a woman finds you unattractive at first and then you show her you got no confidence, then she really won't change her negative opinions about you, ya agree?
        
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rayb12

6 years ago

Both men and women are attracted to appearance and behavior. However in the case of men it significantly weighs on appearance where in the case of women it significantly weighs on behavior.

It gets very awkward when you assume your partner feels attraction the way you do. Many women and men don't grasp how different we are when it comes to this.

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BaconKing

5 years ago

Both men and women can. Women are no more special in this than men.

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curious-bunny

6 years ago

For the longest tine I didn't find this one guy attractive at all. About a month after we started dating I found him attractive so yes

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CUNT

6 years ago

NAH BITCH, IF YOU WANT COCK YOU GOT COCK

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wigz

6 years ago

Yes, definitely. It can go the other way, too...attractive at first but bad personality/rude/gross etc...looks can only get you so far. Most people's tastes also change over the years, I'm not attracted anymore to a ton of guys I used to find hot and I am now attracted to men I never would've considered the least bit sexy years ago.

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S12207

6 years ago

First glance I really think physical attraction is really important and especially maintaining that attraction throughout your relationship. To answer your question though, when I met my boyfriend, as much as I hate to say it I wasn't attracted to him like at all but we hit it off so well that I knew one way or the other I wanted to be in his life. I imagined just being friends with him at first, but as crazy as it sounds I fell hard and my attraction grew with our relationship. He was a little chubby and I'm not a fan of extra weight (I never told him this) he lost weight and now I think he's gorgeous. I know it's possible 😊

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Yes, it is possible, I guess it depends on the girl. Some will change their minds after finding you ugly at first, and some are so shallow, you could be the best at everything in the world except for your looks, and the looks alone will automatically keep her from ever being attracted to you.
  
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_Mehhhh_

6 years ago

My Mom tells me she wasn't having it at all when my Dad first asked her out... and then there she was happily with him for 28 years until he passed away.

So yes it can happen haha

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rayb12

6 years ago

Can change. Women attraction is really different. The word attraction rly shouldn't be used to describe both.

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radar

6 years ago

People are different. To me looks are a far second to personality. If I get to know you and like you on an emotional level, you could pretty much look like Satan's ass-acne and I'd still want to worship you.

God I better get off of here before I embarrass myself further. But this is truth. Be clean, be your best self, and if a chick doesn't like you for that then you don't want her anyway.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  Radar, are you a woman? What about you rayb12? I'm asking that because I'm specifically seeking the answers from a woman's perspective, since they'd know more than the men the answers to my post.
  
  I do like both your answers though. To rayb12, when you said that in the case of men, it significantly weighs more on appearance, did you mean that men get judged by women more on appearance than women do by men, or did you mean that men themselves judge women more on appearance than women judge men?
  
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  - radar
    
    6 years ago
    
    Yes, I'm a woman and speaking of my attraction to men.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      6 years ago
      
      Cool, that helps me realize there's still hope when a woman is still cold shoulder at first look. If she still is cold though after I act confident, I will move on and accept it. I'm just glad that not all women are super shallow.
      
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  - rayb12
    
    6 years ago
    
    Men feel sexual attraction to women's appearances more than their personalities as a general statement.
    
    Also I did not get notified since for some reason you responded to me here lol
    
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charli.m

6 years ago

Attraction is about more than just the physical, so yes, it is entirely possible. Unless your first impression was completely repugnant.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  6 years ago
  
  That's true also. A woman can develope attraction to a man that she at first finds just mildly unattractive, but not like elephant man hideous. But I was wondering, even if a guy is very ugly naturally, can he help make up for it by dressing better and good hygiene? When you mentioned a first impression being repungnant, did you mean like in a physical way that the guy couldn't fix? or did you mean gross as in dirty, smelly, ragged?
  I should make a separate post for this question, is there any hope for a man who's like totally deformed ugly if he just polishes up the things about his appearance he can help like clothes, hygiene, etc.?
  
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    6 years ago
    
    I meant it more in terms of personality.
    
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