While it's not normal there are things that can contribute to allow or such a dynamic relationship to work. I am in a marriage where their was (is) a twenty-seven year difference. Yes that right 27. when I met my husband I was 27 (never married) and he 54 (divorced 9 years). We met on line in one of those foreign dating apps, I indicated the first contact, as his profile stated a specific age range that I clearly was not in.
When I first contacted him he tried his best to discourage me stating the obvious, about the age difference, heck he said he was old enough to be my father ( which was true). He asked if I read his profile, (I think he asked in a more direct way like could I read) And I said yes, that I could read, and asked what the age thing? He maintained that the age difference was to great and could be a problem. I assured him that it would only be a problem if we allowed it to be come one.
I am now 41 and he is 67 we have two wonderful children a boy and girl. Very active in our community and church. He recently retired and I am a in Education. Married for 12 years now.
Age didn't or hasn't become because we chose not to allow it to be come a problem. I also think that because I am Asian where the cultural is different a woman looks on age as a benefit ( a person who is more mature, stable both financially and emotionally etc.
I do however believe that age could be a hindrance, as while we were courting, he talked of girls 18-19 yrs old contacting him through the dating service its one of the reasons he showed an age preference. I think that while I was just 27 I was not naive. I was educated (BS in education, and a masters in elementary education)
And although a different and unusually life style awaited me at age 27 I believe that I had experienced some of life's ups and downs, had wisdom/judgment enough to understand what I was entering into.
I have more in my life than I could ever have imagined had I not taken the risk.
Can a relationship between a 19 year old F and a 30 year old M work?
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While it's not normal there are things that can contribute to allow or such a dynamic relationship to work. I am in a marriage where their was (is) a twenty-seven year difference. Yes that right 27. when I met my husband I was 27 (never married) and he 54 (divorced 9 years). We met on line in one of those foreign dating apps, I indicated the first contact, as his profile stated a specific age range that I clearly was not in.
When I first contacted him he tried his best to discourage me stating the obvious, about the age difference, heck he said he was old enough to be my father ( which was true). He asked if I read his profile, (I think he asked in a more direct way like could I read) And I said yes, that I could read, and asked what the age thing? He maintained that the age difference was to great and could be a problem. I assured him that it would only be a problem if we allowed it to be come one.
I am now 41 and he is 67 we have two wonderful children a boy and girl. Very active in our community and church. He recently retired and I am a in Education. Married for 12 years now.
Age didn't or hasn't become because we chose not to allow it to be come a problem. I also think that because I am Asian where the cultural is different a woman looks on age as a benefit ( a person who is more mature, stable both financially and emotionally etc.
I do however believe that age could be a hindrance, as while we were courting, he talked of girls 18-19 yrs old contacting him through the dating service its one of the reasons he showed an age preference. I think that while I was just 27 I was not naive. I was educated (BS in education, and a masters in elementary education)
And although a different and unusually life style awaited me at age 27 I believe that I had experienced some of life's ups and downs, had wisdom/judgment enough to understand what I was entering into.
I have more in my life than I could ever have imagined had I not taken the risk.