Yo, I get what you mean. I'm in my mid-20's, 5'8" and 105 on a good day. Like myself, you're an ectomorph. Our genetics naturally lean (heavily) towards low weight and bmi. You can't change your genetics, so don't try to be something you're not.
The real issue, though, isn't your weight but how you look at it. I haven't faced bullying for my weight for at least a decade (while smaller than yourself), including both high school and college. Don't focus on comparisons, but find at least one area to find confidence - they'll respond differently if they see you carrying your head high regardless of your weight.
If you do want to gain some muscle, know that ectomorphs tend to have slower gains. A pull up bar, dumbbells, and just doing basic body-weight exercises are feasible (and just getting active can help you feel better due to production of happy chemicals in your brain). This will also be helpful as it can also counteract the effects of depression, which is fairly common in skinny people.
As far as bullying is concerned, most bullies do this because of their own insecurities. As such, they go after the easy targets. This generally tends to be the small, unconfident guys. If they're making you despise yourself, don't even bother trying to appease them. Instead, look for friends who aren't jerks, and don't even bother with frat life. That type of childish response can be even more obvious there.
As far as the girls, if they can't see who you are inside, frankly you're wasting your time with them. If they're adults, they should have the maturity not to act like children. Look for someone you have something in common with.
Bullied at University for being a small and skinny guy
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Yo, I get what you mean. I'm in my mid-20's, 5'8" and 105 on a good day. Like myself, you're an ectomorph. Our genetics naturally lean (heavily) towards low weight and bmi. You can't change your genetics, so don't try to be something you're not.
The real issue, though, isn't your weight but how you look at it. I haven't faced bullying for my weight for at least a decade (while smaller than yourself), including both high school and college. Don't focus on comparisons, but find at least one area to find confidence - they'll respond differently if they see you carrying your head high regardless of your weight.
If you do want to gain some muscle, know that ectomorphs tend to have slower gains. A pull up bar, dumbbells, and just doing basic body-weight exercises are feasible (and just getting active can help you feel better due to production of happy chemicals in your brain). This will also be helpful as it can also counteract the effects of depression, which is fairly common in skinny people.
As far as bullying is concerned, most bullies do this because of their own insecurities. As such, they go after the easy targets. This generally tends to be the small, unconfident guys. If they're making you despise yourself, don't even bother trying to appease them. Instead, look for friends who aren't jerks, and don't even bother with frat life. That type of childish response can be even more obvious there.
As far as the girls, if they can't see who you are inside, frankly you're wasting your time with them. If they're adults, they should have the maturity not to act like children. Look for someone you have something in common with.