Broke up with cis wife

Slut implies more than one other partner. Cheating isnt automatically a slut move unless it was A) A repeat offender or B) it was for multiple partners. Same theme there. Bitch is a sufficient insult regarding the cheating behavior, slightly understandable considering the circumstances, but still a shit thing to do.

Insults dont mean all the same thing you know.

BDSM is fine for the most part but the kinks aren't always as closely related as people think. It's kind of just an umbrella term for the most common non-vanilla kinks, and the D and S are used twice.

It's really (BD)(DS)(SM).

I'd say DS, dom and sub, is the most common by far, and whether or not anyone's personally into it, it's obviously fine for others as long as no one is having their rights violated. It just really mutually turns on many doms and subs.

But there doesn't have to be overlap with, say, BD, bondage and "discipline" (just spankings the person totally wants), which is what most people think of when they hear BDSM. Many subs would be scared to death of being tied up and many doms cringe at the thought of spanking a sub or causing even a mild pain sensation as they don't correlate being dominant with being antagonistic. Sometimes there's overlap but that's coincidence if there is.

Similarly, some people like bondage and/or "discipline" independently of enjoying a particularly dominant or submissive role in sex. It's just exciting to them.

All that's fine as well. If someone likes any if that, cool. If not, cool.

The only one I have trouble with is the last one, SM, sadism and masochism. I particularly have trouble accepting the sadism, particularly emotional sadism. I totally understand that the sadists claim they're not necessarily bad people and are even perplexed themselves at that this arouses them, just as all kinks are inexplicable. They maintain it's purely sexual and they wouldn't act without consent. I get that.

But I just can't imagine being a practicing emotional sadist even if it randomly turned me on. I couldn't do things like say "Yeah your daddy never really loved you huh" until she cried to get my rocks off even if she was a practicing emotional masochist who achieved her best orgasms from hearing this while crying. When the session is over those words are still there and you've potentially done lasting mental damage. It feels so anti-therapeutic. That one just feels like a kink best suppressed for the sake of being a good person, similar to being a pedo.

The rest is fine though albeit not for everyone. Nothing wrong with you wanting to consensually dominate a woman who wants this just like you do. Just make sure it's one who actually does and that you don't treat her like shit or violate her rights. Absolutely don't pressure a non-sub to be a sub, and don't take advantage of an actual sub's submission in a malicious way either.

But yeah, what you're looking for is totally out there. I'm sorry you were cheated on and I hope you find real love.

Like, I know what you're doing so don't think I made my original comment not knowing, and I don't intend to make it obvious for anyone else coming on this post, but honestly work on some of the other users here, you won't be getting what you're looking for from me. Lol.

1. Rhetoric straight out the gate, yet again. You're claiming that I stated the reason they transitioned was due to "hype", I never referred to Trans people transitioning for popularity. I'm not going to bother continuing with this point as it is evidently clear you're just throwing shit at the wall now to hope something sticks and I can't be bothered getting caught in that retarded game.

2. "Of fucking _course_ they don't state that's going to happen"
Then don't fucking try to slip in vagaries to imply that they do. Cunt rag.

3.

4. The fact that you took a study on a group of people from a time where you describe it as taboo to be such a person and don't understand that you can't use that study to compare it to a time where that very same group of people get instant value in society merely for existing and how that could potentially change the findings of a similar recreated study done after the popularity of that group boomed is hilarious. Again I've let you pivot entirely because it might be the case that the vast majority of Trans people don't regret their decision but it is still a completely reasonable to point out that people like you will encourage people to transition but won't tell them about the massive hit to their love life that would follow, and we know that it's followed because there is now a trend growing where Trans people are lacking in a love life that a lot of them are trying to shame people into sleeping with them with the idea that not wanting to be sexually active with a trans person is in itself bigoted. Then we could mix in that transgender people umpteen times more likely to be autistic, which I wonder if that would influence anything regarding this topic when a bunch of autistic people have large groups telling them what is the best course of action is for their identity to solve their problems.

Also, yeah, 1970-2010 isn't 50 years, dropped the ball there looking at different studies and pairing it with my point that it's different in 2020. Kudos.

5. "I'm right, the people say so, you narcissist!" Lol ok. I need a coffee, I feel like there's a lot of preaching coming up.
"Forget the skirts!". I'm not interested enough to hold you to it.

This next bit is just a repeat at throwing more shit against the wall for the point #1. I never vilified Trans people at all, I vilified people like you and did so bluntly without tact, which was my intention. The rest is just preaching but I'm just not interested, dude.

Aw, shit. Tbf I'm an understanding Q Anon, I think Hillary just likes a Pizza topping more closer to home.

Awww, noooooo. You've dedicated a whole paragraph towards talking about how smart you are. Fucking end me.

Holy fuck. These representations are hilarious. How me insulting your intelligence can somehow have you conclude it as me actually fawning over your "formidable, well-versed art"? is just a great example of my impression of you being valid. You're just more of the same.

Like, dude, we've been through enough discussions to know you're trash at this. From the, "Ad hom and Red Herring" shit where you fell into using the very fallacies you lied about me using and then tried to claim it was a "master plan" just to avoid accountability.
Or when you posted studies to claim conservatives are just dumb compared to liberals and then when I read them it was referring to "social conservatives" so then you had the audacity to pretend that you weren't talking about conservatives in general but a specific set of conservatives that you didn't even mention until I corrected you.
Now you're trying to use a 50 year study to prove your point yet I have to explain to you why it can't be used because the culture around the topic has drastically changed, and you even admit so to a degree but think because it would change in your favour we should just assume the prior one is accurate.

So in Summary:
- You accept my position that there has been a drastic change in the culture regarding the topic but you think outdated data can be used.
- You admit that the 2 year evaluation to refute my position doesn't actually include the problem my position is about.
- You abandoned your skirt analogy after my criticism of it.
- You somehow think that I consider your rhetoric well made even though I've been insulting you for it.

Like at what point do I take you seriously after these experiences with you, my dude?

Yeah I didnt need a description, I know what they look like and it is unsightly and unnerving to some people. It's the truth. That level of modification is practically body horror for some of us.

Thats a horrifying mental image.