Breaking up with girlfriend because of her parents

Ok, I just started dating this girl about 4 weeks ago. I like her and everything but I am thinking I might have to break up with her because of her psycho parents. Here is why. I am 19, will be twenty in less than a month and she just turned 20, so we are both adults. We both still live at home however and her parents are the strictest parents I have ever heard of. She is not even allowed to go on "dates," which is bullsh*t. We work together by the way so the only time we get to see each other is when we work together or when I go over to her house, which is only about once a week and I hate it because we are not allowed to be alone. Her parents are in the room the entire time and we can't even so much as try to whisper to each other without her mom asking what we are talking about. For gods sake, we can't even hold hands without her mom saying something about it, like "we are moving too fast. " I don't use this word often but her mom is a grade A c*nt. She doesn't want her daughter coming over to my house without having met my parents first and my parents are busy so that hasn't happened, she did let her come over once but that was because it was her b-day. I feel mislead too because I asked her on a date and she said yes but never told me her mom wouldn't let that happen. She invited me over today and I really don't want to go. I know it sounds bad because she is a sweet girl but I feel like she isn't even my girlfriend because we aren't allowed to do couples things together, just sit at her house and listen to her b**ch mom talk about how great her parenting style is, it really doesn't feel like it is a relationship. She has talked about moving out but not until summer probably and I honestly can't wait it out that long. I know I am going to hurt her by telling her I can't be with her anymore because of her mom but from what she's told me she has had a couple of past bf's break up with her for the same reason so i don't think it will be a surprise. i don't know, is there any good way to break it to her or should I break up with her because I can't really do anything with her. any opinions?

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  • austrianotaustralia

    Kill her parents :-)

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  • dude if she is hot, then get her to sneak out and then fuck her in your closet

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  • LiveLaughLove73

    @jen1118---
    Yea but if he marries her and like u said the family to he could move far away and they can both change their names and no one will ever know!! Except whoever read this comment :P

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  • Jen118584

    Dude, when you marry a girl you also marry her family. You don't wanna deal with that forever. You know her parents will still be a pain in the ass even after she moves out. She needs to grow a pair and tell her mom to but the f out if she ever wants to hold down a man.

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  • Stupidlookingguy

    Seriously, if you're that into her and you sincerely love her, you should be willing to wait. Overcome the obstacle of time and it'll be a happy ending :D

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  • lelouch

    you know what if you really love your girlfriend you will still fight for your relationship no matter what happens.. no matter her parents didn't like you still you must... just prove to her parents your sincerity..goodluck and god bless

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  • gabbrella

    fuck it then it all bullshit

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  • Its like this as long as she is living in her parents house she will abide by their rules. I agree her mother is entirely over protective but that is her prerogative. When her daughter completely grows up moves out (supports herself) then she can do as she pleases in the mean time that's just the way it is.

    If this girl doesn't mean enough to you to stick it out and wait until she is out on her own then yes i suggest you break it off and find someone else.

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  • Leopold_Butters_Stotch

    stay with her, she never defies her mother, help her

    Butters--RESPECT MY AUTHORITAH

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  • gaatooor

    Alright you have a few options here. You can dump her but remember its not her fault that her parents are fuckin wacko. You can wait it out but see if you can get some type of commitment from her that she will move out in the summer. But if it were me I can tell you one thing. When I did finally move in with her I would send her mom a video of you fucking her daughter in the ass. I mean a full length porno of you just fucking her daughter to the point where you girl almost vomits its so good. Make sure to get a good angle for the money shot when you blow it on her daughters face too. Also when you are fucking her it might be kinda good to have her call you by her dads name. Hope this helps.

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  • comalies

    Parents like that have major issues
    i think you should wait until she moves out (if she's worth it that is)
    if not then, move on
    there are lots of chicks out there with parents who dont give a crap about em.

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  • rosaflower

    4 weeks?
    You barely know the girl.
    Chill and put it back in your pants homie.

    If you're really how old you say you are, she can go on dates without asking for mom and dad's permission.

    And if she's 20 and refusing to go out on dates without asking for mom and dad's permission...you need to break up with her because that's messed up right there on HER end. Not her parents.

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  • Avant-Garde

    This reminds of Black Swan with the bizarre relationship that Nina and her mom shared.

    I think you should stay with her and encourage her to move out/see how fucked up her parents are. Ask your parents for advice on how to help her.

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  • Austalien

    Her parents sound like oppressive cunts, I've been through the same thing didn't end well

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  • virgo1985

    Dude, Im going to give you the best piece of advice I can being that iv'e been in this situation for two and a half year relationship with a former girlfriend. It really depends on what type of person your girlfriend is.

    If shes strong enough to stand by you and defend you and plan a resolution to the situation in front of you be it having a sit down civil meeting with all of you or if she plans on moving out then it will work most likely. But if shes to scared to stand up to her parents and be a mature young woman and feels the need to constant please her mom then its not going to work and you should head for the hills because like someone else posted when you marry someone you marry there family and if shes not going to step up your going to be dealing with the parents abuse your whole life.

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  • brunettebeauty21

    You need to stay with her i mean you arent breaking up with her because of something she did or something directly about her. You are cause of her parents. Its not her fault they are so controlling make it fun for her until she moves out have her sneak out at night. I had to do it cause my parents were the same way and b.f. at the time did that and stuck with me for two years until i turned 18. And we are married now i mean if we would of broken up with one another we wouldnt of fell in love and got married. Not saying she is but she could be your match and if you break up with her what then? Stay on her parents good side so they dont make things harder for her or you. And just sneak around i did it almost everynite and we would go to midnight movies or go to a park play video games or watch the stars on the roof top be creative and fun until she moves out. Its something she cant help. Put yourself in her position woould you want her to break up with you? And if she is allowed to hang with friends during the day have one of them get her and bring her to you or have one of her friends bring a guy along and go on a double date. Take whatever feelings you have for her and show you what you can and are willing to do for her. And if you guys in the future get married you will have some fun secret dates and memories to talk about:)

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  • grindemup

    my ex's parents were the same, total control. It sucked. Her parents believed they actually were pleasantville ,perfect and all . If you two are in love, it should work out. take care.

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  • cherry41

    She is an adult and should be able to come and go as she pleases. But she also respects her parents which can only be a good thing. Try and hang on in there. You do work together so do get to see each other. Be strong man if you really like her, if not let her loose.

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  • AnnaAgain

    If she doesn't mean enough to you that you can't wait a month or two to get your dick in her pussy, then dump her. she deserves better anyway. Why don't you try thinking about other people's feelings, as opposed to your own personal gain?

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  • replicator

    move together guys. Run! If the love is strong.

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  • Asskicker202

    the poster of this is lieing he is underaged
    but if you are not man up and get a home and tell her the same thing

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  • Ha, you are lonely

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  • Way to long.

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  • gabbrella

    hey make it up to her who cares about her mum and dad fuck them man

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  • Miko5625

    I'm kinda in the same situation your girlfriend is in, with my parent's except I'm not an adult yet. If you really like, try and get to go against her parents once in a while, she's an adult so she should be able to make her own decisions. Or, maybe try and talk to her parents. But if you don't really like her that much, then just move on and find someone else.

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